Is it wrong to get a kitten right after your cat passes?

Adriana, my heart goes out to you. I was just thinking the same thing today. My cat died last year at the age of 15 (years) and I am still grieving. I do have another cat and I love him so much, but that doesn't make me miss my other one any less. No two cats could have been more different. I cannot tell you when the right time will be. But...I think you will know, just like you knew it was time to let this one go. I think that when you have healed and your heart can open up again and love another kitty without having the feeling of guilt come inside - then it may be time

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I know it is very hard to lose a pet that you love. I have lost two cats in the last 10 years. One to FeLV like you, and one to a reaction to anesthesia on the operating table... The first one was only 2 years old, the second one, only 10 months old. Both were devastating. In my opinion, it can't hurt to get another one. When my first one died (had to be put to sleep as well) I had just gotten another cat a month before. The night Princess died, Sweet Pea slept beside me for the first time, her little body pressed up against mine, almost like she knew I was so sad. She was an incredible comfort to me and made me love her all the more.

The second cat (Bella) I lost a half year ago. I got her the day after Thanksgiving last year (9 months old). One month later she needed routine surgery and had a reaction to the anesthesia and died. Just like that. They had already called me and told me she came through it fine. They had to call me back an hour later, to tell me she had passed away. I still often think about her and miss her. I think she was the nicest cat I ever had, and the cuddliest, and one of the prettiest (I'm pretty sure she was Maine Coon, had all the little tufts at the tips of her paws and her ears, and long soft cuddly fur and she was growing like crazy. In that one month she grew like 3 lbs!)

I decided instead of getting another permanent cat at the time, to foster a cat. I think this was a really good choice in my situation and maybe this is something you might want to try. You could take the time to grieve your other cat if you felt you needed time to do that, but at the same time you would be giving a cat a stable home for a little while. Cats do so much better in a home than they do in a shelter, no matter how loving the shelter volunteers are, just because of the volume of other animals there. Your local shelter or Pet store would probably be able to point you in the right direction if you decided you wanted to try fostering.

I hope that you feel comforted and know that your cat is ok. You will always have a special place in your heart for that pet and nothing will change that. You did the right thing by having him put to sleep. You would not want him to suffer. You are the one suffering now and it's ok to be sad. But it's ok to want another one to comfort you too.

Since your cat had FeLV, then you should wait a little while to get another cat. The virus could still be in your home because of your old cat shedding the virus.

Talk to your vet about the time frame, but I believe it is 3 months.

After that, make sure to buy new everything, litterbox, food dishes, toys, beds. Throw the old stuff away, I know that sounds harsh, but you wouldn't want your new cat to catch anything.

Once you choose your new kitty (hopefully from a shelter or very reputable breeder), make sure to always keep him UTD on his vaccines.

Good luck, sorry for your loss.

No, it doesn't make you a bad person. Not at all. But, I do think you should deal with this death before you bring another cat into the house, because if you don't, you may end up really regretting your decision. You're going to miss your cat forever, and you did what you felt was best for him. I had to put one of my cats to sleep and I miss him every day, but I know that it was the best thing for him. I am so sorry for what you're going through, but it will get easier. You'll know when you're ready for a new best friend.

I know it's hard but I think it's best to wait. You don't really want to cuddle with just ANY cat, you want your cat back. Getting another kitten wouldn't be a betrayal, nor would it make you a bad person, it just won't fix the real problem.

Besides, when you do get another cat don't you want it to be a happy thing? You want to wait until you're excited to pick out a new friend, not try to find a surrogate for the one you are really missing.

It's extremely hard to lose a pet. Trust me, I know, I've lost so many. In fact my childhood cat just died. But a new cat won't replace your old cat. He/she will have an entirely different personality for you to get to know and love. Just wait for when you're ready to do that.

its not bad at all. just last week i had to put down my cat (Harley) that i had since i was 1 and im 15 now and in that same week i had to put down our cat that was 22.

we had 5 cats and within a week it was brought down to three and now everything seems so empty.

i want to get another cat so things feel normal in my house but sometimes it is better to wait. when my dog died about 5 or 6 years ago we got a puppy like 2 weeks after and i kind of regret that now.

P.S harley had cancer too, and you shouldnt regret not being there when the put him down, i went when we put harley down and i cry more now than i did before(we knew we had to put him down)

i am very sorry for your loss, but if you think the time is good to get another cat, then its the right time

Ohh feels like my cat all over again. My cat Brimfield was very sick and we put him to sleep he was the sweetest thing he slept on my bed or floor every night and follow me arud i was so sad i cried alot to ! But i tought getting another cat to sleep with me and cuddle and follow me aroud would help me get over him so I went n adoptapet.com and adopted a kitty! I miss brimfield but my new kitten Jackson is just as loving and sweet as him! And your not replacing your cat your just getting another one, think of it like this : you put your cat to sleep because he was old and sick and suffering (you did him a favor and he knows you did and that u loved and still love him) but now a little kitty was born and if you didnt adopt it it would end up being put to sleep because of over population and not because it was sick or old! It wouldnt be fair to let it be put to sleep and not get a chance to live,to love, to be loved and now you know you doing a little munchkin a favor just like you did by putting your cat to sleep. Your cat would want a little kitty to have the chance to live and your cat would know the kitty would be in good hands. Good luck Im sorry for your loss. If you want to talk you can add what you want to say as an detail and i'll add to my answer just make sure to write to olivia so i know its for me!

i totally understand, i lost my cat when i was 7. i know but i loved her she was my dads cat and we waited 3 years and my sisters friends cat had kittens. just wait till you find YOUR next cat, look around don't be desperate for another kitten. at your own pace get a new own. my heart goes out to you, they are one of the closest things to us.

No i understand. It doesnt make you a horrible person. You just need someone to comfort you during this hard time. I'm pretty sure he wants you to be happy. SO if getting another kitten, makes you happy, then do so.

Good luck(:

Hope i helped!

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not at all!but if you really feel like your betraying him don't do it.and if you don't feel like it it may make you feel better.really sorry about that.

hope i helped:):)