to all the parents on yahoo answers what how would you react if you found out your son........?

If my son was happy in a relationship & was taking precautions I would not mind.I think you need to meet his family.Don't think too deeply about what others are thinking about you-they probably aren't.You just feel this way because you know you are having sex but they might not.well done anyway for protecting yourself & good luck.

I have grown up sons, in their thirties now, and also a daughter so all of mine were once in your situation! To my mind, his parents must be aware of your existence even if they have not met you, if as you say you have been good friends for two years. Therefore I think they would know the kind of son they have and trust him to use his judgement and be careful and that you have only ever been with him during this time - so, no, they shouldn't think any less of you. The important thing is to show them you both can be grown up about it, that you know the risks and can deal with them, safe sex etc. You sound like a very nice young lady - someone else maybe wouldn't care what his parents thought - you obviously do, so be yourself and I hope it goes well when you finally get to meet them. If you are the caring person you sound then just be yourself and I'm sure they will see for themselves - and if they are unfriendly or 'off' towards you, then you and your boyfriend can just see how it goes, don't be upset about how other people judge you honey, just be true to yourself and treat people with respect. You can't go wrong then! Best of luck.

I have a son that is 16 and don't think he is having sex at this point. But obviously it is a possibility and it is the time in life that kids experiment whether we parents like it or not. I am not sure I understood your last sentence, it sounds as though he told her. The best thing that could happen for everyone is that he respects his mother enough to have an adult conversation with her and tell her the truth. In the same respect, you should be an adult and realize that your first impression is up to you whether you are having sex with her son or not. Just be respectful and open and reassure her that you aren't trying to be sneaky about anything. Trust is the most important thing when dealing with a mother of the guy and his girlfriend. Good luck to you :)

She probably said "Sam would never do that" to give him the opportunity to confirm her comment. Apparently, he didn't, so was his mother's first clue.

I'm sure that his parents will be disappointed, but probably not terribly surprised. They probably had higher expectations for their son, and this will be a bitter dose of reality. Three months at age 16 really isn't a terribly long time to date without having a sexual relationship.

I must admit, as a parent of a sexually active 16-year-old I would be disappointed in my teen and his girlfriend, but that doesn't mean that I would be rude or inhospitable to her. I would make an attempt to keep the lines of communication open.

Since he lives with his parents, they can try to prevent you two from seeing each other, but if you win them over (with kindness and respect for their wishes) they are likely to realize that restricting your time together with their son will give you two a "cause" to fight for together, which will only make things worse.

Our character is defined by what we do when others can't see us, so I'm wondering why you would engage in behavior that would cause you public embarrassment.

Well your boyfriends Mum really needs to let go of her son!

He's 16! Here in the UK you are legal at 16, therefore there would be no problem, also... if your love and care for each other so much, it SHOULD be less of a problem.

I suggest asking him to introduce you to his parents. You really do need to meet the parents if you want your relationship to succeed because his family could become your family in the future, this would also solve any sneaking around you do etc. 3 months is a heck of a long time to be in a relationship without meeting them!

Good luck, :-)

I would only hope my kids would be making educated choices about their sex lives. I make sure they are educated and have a solid understanding of consequences of any choices they make. I hope my kids wouldn't be afraid to come to me if they are in trouble or don't know how to handle a situation but that doesn't always happen either realistically most kids don't discuss their sex lives with their parents, so I try to be proactive in education.

Ultimately, my reaction would be "If you're gonna do it, be safe, be smart and while we're at it, lets set up an appt to see the doctor about birthcontrol options for you.

If you feel old enough and responsible enough at 16 to be having sex then when its time to meet his parents hold your head up and be the same woman to his parents that you are trying to be to him. If you have a problem with that, then keep your legs closed.

Why the hell would we need to know? I raise my kids to be responsible and when the time comes for them to make a choice I hope they make the right one and be respectful about it. I was doing the nasty at 16-17 and didn't need to tell my parents about it. Why can't anything be private these days? It's not like you are making your own video are you? Good Lord, why is life so complicated these days?

I guess it really depends on his parents. When I found out my son of 16 was having sex, I was ok with it. As far as his girlfriend, I did not think anything less of her. It may also depend on when his mom first had sex. I was 15 and I never thought of myself as a ****. I think she will be fine with it. Just be nice and polite when you meet them.

It's always better if they hear it from you. But yes, I would think less of the girl if I found out. But any parent would think less of the other child. Your too young to be having sex.