Should I have a wedding or not?

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Basically, as a recently engaged couple, we are deciding whether we actually want a wedding or not.  There is a big push from our families to have a wedding.  He is probably going to be the only one of his siblings to get married and I would be the first in my family.  Our parents are really looking forward to at least one wedding to be involved with.

It's not that I object to a wedding, it's that if I had a wedding I would want it to be extravagant (thusly expensive).  Unfortunately for me I am also extremely cheap (I know, it's bad).  Even the cheap weddings are expensive.  I would rather spend the money on a house down payment, rather than on a party that no one is going to care about the day after (except the family).

I realize it's ultimately our decision and we shouldn't let anyone else's opinions sway us too much.  But I think I would feel bad for the family if I didn't and for my pocket book if I did.  

Would you suck it up and have the wedding? How could I appease the parents without spending way to much?

garden of flowers · Accepted Answer

its your and your fiance's decision, its up to YOU guys if you guys want one or not, it will have alot of memories if you guys do, think about it, but dont do it for the fam, do it for yourselves

Anonymous · Answer

Don't let your family pressure you they will understand it's your life and you make the decisions. And also what does the groom think? you two should talk and decide either way you will get to marry each other and you found each other. And maybe when you can safe money and go on a honeymoon and just have fun not for anybody else!

? · Answer

I was in the same boat. We decided to have a very small wedding in a chapel with just our parents. When we have a little more money and are more settled we are going to have a wedding announcement party so everyone can celebrate with us.

life coach · Answer

You seem too practical to go all or nothing on the wedding. The house should be your priority, but you can have a small nice wedding for under a thousand. Keep it small but sweet. Meaningful, not a show case. Compromise.

Lydia · Answer

If you want to get married, you will be having a wedding. However, what style/size, etc. that takes is up to you two as a couple to decide.
If you do want a traditional wedding, just limit the numbers so it's more affordable for you to afford.

Anonymous · Answer

Have a small wedding and spend the money on a nice reception.  Your parents are proud of you and want to "show you off" to their friends and family.

Anonymous · Answer

However you get married, no matter how simple or extravagant, it is your wedding. 

Something you need to think over. 

I know I wouldn't choose my wedding to appease outsiders, I would have my wedding my way.

La Vie Boheme · Answer

Have a small affair with just close family and friends.  You dont need a band, party favors or $75 a plate meals to have a great day.  

PS:  It's n

LaVada A · Answer

Have a small wedding, and have a wedding and reception in one place that saves alot of money that is what we did.  Good luck and congrats!  You won't regret it.

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