Scary sad situation? this is really important?

"For the last couple of months, another girl, Valerie, has been being really mean to me- she acts really sweet to me around Valerie," This sentence doesn't make sense to me and you need to clarify, so we know who you are talking about exactly.

Jessica is stuck in a difficult situation - she obviously likes you both. Jessica did defend you to Valerie. So she is a real friend. You have to remember at this age, it is really hard to stand up to your friends, even for yourself. That is why peer pressure can make you do or say things that you wouldn't normally.

Do not tell Jessica how Valerie is. You just have to distance yourself from Valerie. Jessica and Demi can be friends with Valerie, that is their choice. Just like you can strike out and make new friends. If she is truly mean spirited they will discover this on their own. People like that have a way of self-destructing. I know it will be very difficult, but just ignore Valerie's behavior and sit back and watch the fire-works show. She will blow herself up!

Now you have to address the rude comment - State that you are sorry, you weren't trying to tell her who to be friends with. Just that Valerie doesn't treat you kindly and you do not consider her a friend for yourself. Let her know that it doesn't change your relationship with her. You guys can still all be friends, but if Valerie is included you won't be joining because you want to have happy, healthy relationships with your friends and do not want to be put down by negativity. If she scoffs at that... say - "you can not deny that when she texted you that she hates me and thinks that I am retarded... that is a positive and healthy way to talk about someone." Then drop it - do not even get into discussing Valerie anymore. If they bring up Valerie, act polite, and then gently steer them to another subject. Whatever happens... when they discover her true colors DO NOT rub it into their faces and say I told you so. This will only hurt and create resentment. Just let them know that you were always there for them, because you are a true friend.

Do not expect Valerie to change, to become nicer or to apologize to you. Some things are just lost causes. You need to do well in school and maintain your other friendships, even start new ones... or get involved in an after-school activity. Do something different! This shows them and you that life goes on. You can not change people or circumstances beyond your control, but you can control how you react to people and your circumstances. Take the high road!

I do not think that you need to contact the school counselor and especially do not get the parents involved over..."She stole my friend" Some things you are going to have to just ignore... I know that it hurts, but try not to let it. Now if you are being bullied, especially if there is name calling on a daily basis and if ANYTHING has happened physically - then yes you need to go to the school authorities. That is not acceptable in anyway.

You lost two other friends. You need to go to them and let them know that what Dallas had said was not true. You were not gossiping. If you did gossip or something was taken out of context or something you inadvertently said somehow got sent through the rumor mill at school. You need to go to both of them, individually and explain what happened and apologize for any part that you might have had in it. If they are truly your friends they will listen to you , trust you, accept any apology that you might have to give.

Best of luck during this really hard time for you. Try not to let it get you down. Remember when you are out of high school - things will be so very different and none of this type of stuff will matter!

This sounds lame. But to be honest, Valerie's just jealous. Its just a phase where she feels insecure about herself so she feels she needs t be accepted by her peers. That's what makes her think that taking your friends and making you feel small will give her power and to be the center of attention, since she's new to them. And new is an attractive idea. Just kill her with kindness. When you pass her on the hall, say, "Hey, Valerie." and smile. She'll HATE it and eventually accept you. Dallas is just doing the exact same thing.

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Try and sit down with her and have a talk. Always be calm even if she says something to provoke you or starts to swear/yell/ect. Explain to her that you want to keep your friends and still be civil with her, and if you both work towards it you might even be able to make a friendship. Good luck to you!

theres only six other people at your school..?