How do I move on when I'm having his baby?

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I'm 32 years old and 4 months pregnant. I got pregnant by my ex bf whom I have been off and on for the last 4 years.  We've been "friends with benefits" and my pregnancy was the result of that "relationship".  I didn't know how to break the news to him but I eventually did and he completely shut down.  It took him a couple of months to react and reassure me that  he would be part of our baby's life as well as help me financially!  Although, his promise has given me peace of mind, he also assured me that between us there is no more hope for a relationship.  He even went as far as to tell me that the news of my pregnancy has opened his eyes and made him realize what his true feelings for me are.  He claims to love me and care for me but always follows that by "I love you but I'm not in love with you".  His family is extremely supportive of our situation and I appreciate that very much because my family isn't very supportive.  I know he'll be part of my life for ever and all I want to know is how in the world does one move on from such a heartbreak?  I've always loved him and had hope that we work things out and give our relationship another go, but since he told me the latest that he doesn't "love me" I just don't know how to handle that at this moment while going through so many hormonal/body changes... I just feel so alone and unloved by the man that use to tell me he loved me just 4 months ago. 

We've established that we would be friends ONLY but I want more... is that wrong of me?  How can I get the strength I need to move on?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

he does not want a relationship with you.

DO NOT take his word that he will give you money for the baby.

take him to court.  they will determine how much he owes every month to you - not how much he wants to pay you every month.

as far as the relationship with you - it is over.
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you have a beautiful baby on the way.

concentrate on the baby - they will need you.

peace.

Drama · Answer

Sometimes in life we make decisions we aren't proud of. We always what more then what we have. We aren't happy with just what we have. We have our ups and downs,but that does not mean that we can just move on and let go to all that we have? Why give up to what you have? Are you willing? The true strength you can find is in God! In my life I just dropped God out of the picture,but really that didn't last long! God really can give you strength. He loves you and always has and always will.I mean he created you. You having this baby was part of the plan! You are loved every second of every day by God honey! It is completely normal to what the relationship to last. PLEASE consider what I said!

Hope I helped!

chieko · Answer

you were an fwb...what part of that did you not understand? you're 32 and trying to hang on to a man that doesn't want you? 

you will probably have a sweet baby out your foolishness. be grateful for that and focus on being a good mother. that will help you move on...

Anonymous · Answer

It's time re-evaluate your relationship,because both of you are going through a distressing time and don't really know what you want.

JustaThought · Answer

Well I mean your having his baby so maybe you should try and make it work for the baby and see what happens from there

? · Answer

I think you need to have your baby first, before you can move on to some other guy.

Ann Delaney · Answer

Its only natural to feel that way. I suggest joining plentyoffish.com and make new friends

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How do I move on when I'm having his baby?

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