Wouldn't you be so angry?

Personally I think your handling quite well. You have every right to feel how you feel but you know not to take it out on her.

I have a cousin with the same first and last name as mine. We even went to the same high school. No one got us mixed up, but we were often asked if we were related.

After I married, I moved to a town where someone else had the same first and last (married) name as me. Occasionally I still get her calls, and once someone took out a public birthday advertisement in the paper in which they joked about her age, and some people thought it was me. Since our names were pretty common, we've both learned to live with it and laugh about it. It never mattered; our family and friends always know who is whom.

We were also considering a name for our son that would have been the same as one of his cousins. We didn't pick it, because a different name seemed to fit better when he was born, but if our first choice had been the cousin's name, we'd have used it and just explained the reason to them.

Really, it's not that big a deal. The two girls will live separate lives and will be two separate people to their families. Their names will just be a small part of the whole person that they are, and no one will think of them as twins or copies.

I'd be ticked. However, you have the older Ava, so everyone in the family will know that you used the name first.

I have two cousins- an Ashley and an Ashlinn. There was a similar family feud that didn't blow over until two other people in the family had baby boys, and named both of them Joe.

It is definitely a primitive and steaming anger that has no rational basis but is consuming nonetheless. I named my son something a bit more unusual, and then someone from my church went and named her son the same thing two months later, saying that she loved the name, and that since I had done it, it wasn't TOO unusual.

LOL - that's true, she's older so - your Ava will be "Big Ava!" I'd be furious!

Yeah it would make of angry too. but turn that around on her. she loved the name you chose so much that she could not choose one herself. you basically named her baby. and when your child grows up or when she is around. tell ava how her aunt loved her so much and wanted a baby just like her that she named her own after her. lol that will get a rise who knows she may start calling her baby by another name.

That is annoying, but unless they live in the same house, I don't see why it's a huge problem. My brother's son is named Alex and my other brother named his daughter Alexandria, and they call her Alex as well. We only all see each other about once a year. My daughter is Eliza but we sometimes call her Lizzie for short and then another brother named his daughter Elizabeth and they call her Lizzie for short. Again, we hardly ever see each other, so my brother didn't even realize we called our daughter Lizzie.

Yes, I would be upset.

But here's a sad, TRUE STORY:

I always said if I had a son, Id name him Gabriel. Well, my younger cousin (who admired me a lot) got preg before me with a son, and named him GABRIEL! Completely stole my name, and she knew very very very well that I planned on that name. I even bought baby magnets with "Gabriel" on it for my son.

Exactly 3 months after she delivered, I got preg with my son! And he was born one week before her son's bday the next year.

2 years ago, she was killed/died by her friends slipping her too many drugs.

And now, Im not so mad about the name anymore.. infact, I see it as one of the most beautiful tokens of our bond, how much she admired me and loved me...

I never realized that when she was still alive...

Think of it like this: She thought the name YOU picked was so beautiful she couldnt help but copy you a bit, it is a complement. Just let it go because there is nothing you can do about it and seething will do nothing but drive you crazy!!

I don't think you're over reacting. Out of all the possible names she had to choose the same one as your daughters?? That would annoy me too.

you should probably talk to her about it but not make a big deal. your not really overreacting but maybe she just likes the name. It could be cute if they were together and had the same name. but maybe you could just ignore it and ask her wat gave her the idea or wat she was thinking when she named her daughter that. remember to just dont yell....i know you must be so angry and i would be too. but i wouldnt want to ruin a friendship with family member