Spayed female cat. Non-neutered male cat!?

Hi Rose,

Thank you for adopting a cat! :) And I know that you will have a lifetime companion that worships you (or most likely, it's the other way round). =^.^=

I agree also with most answerer that it is not a good idea to bring your cat along for visits. Unlike dogs, cat's don't do well on social visits. Unless the cat knows each other and are familiar with each other's smell, introducing a non neutered tom cat to another can spell disaster with a capital D. He will not be interested in her since she is spayed nor will he tolerate her invading his territory.

Best thing for you to do is to keep her at home and provide all the essentials for when you are gone. Cats do well being alone at home, you needn't worry too much.

Cats decide on their own who they like and don't like.

A spayed female is alot calmer cat than an unneutered male. If the male is really laid back (not normal for an unneutered male) then they may get along fine after a few meetings but if he is the average territorial unneutered male then the problems you may have would be him being over excited and agressive w/the female (even though she is spayed).

The friend should have had the male neutered by 1 year old. Has he started spraying urine around the house yet? Most do by the time they reach a year to 1 1/2 years old.

Neutering will help that and will also make him a much calmer cat.

If he has not started spraying yet, the introduction of another cat into the household may make him start spraying as a territorial issue.

Well good luck to you with the cat introductions.

You may want to start at first meeting w/your cat in a large cage for the whole time you are there. That way they can get to know each other without any fighting, chasing, etc.

I wouldn't even introduce the two cats if it's only going to be a weekend here and there. Travel and new situations/introductions are stressful on cats. If you're going to take her, keep her confined in a single room where his cat can't access her. There's no point in putting either of them through the stress of introductions for a weekend at a time. Unlike dogs, they just don't adapt as quickly and more likely than not every weekend you take her will be like the first time every time. If you're concerned about him trying to mate her, then that shouldn't be a worry. Since she's spayed, she won't be emitting any of the pheromones associated with a cat in heat, so he shouldn't be interested. I would be much more concerned about the stress and potential fighting. Since he is an unaltered male, the presence of another cat may prompt him to feel the need to mark his territory. It's very possible that he may begin to spray around the house, even if he never has before. To avoid this, I recommend having him neutered before introducing your cat to the home.

I had a male cat and I adopted a female they were 2 yrs old when they met too. First, time she visits, I would suggest that the male cat be moved to a room that has a door so the female can come in a investigate the new surroundings. Just for an 1 hour. Then take her home. When she is gone let the male out and let him smell her. If he is not fixed, he might start spraying around the house marking his territory. The next time you bring her over keep her in a carrier and let him investigate her with the safety of the carrier in place. If they don't start hissing and fighting you can open the carrier and let her come out on her own. The best thing is to let them meet each other and don't force it. It took me 7 hours to the new female to relax around my male.

Good luck!

They may fight ONLY because they do not know each other not because one is un-neutered. He will be territorial. He should neuter his male because they spray and the smell is strong and had to find and get rid of. Is it possible to put the kitty in the bedroom, laundry room or bathroom by herself when visiting to let the male who lives there get to know the female?

On they other hand they make like each other but let them smell each other from under the door. You don't want each other to SEE each other and they start hissing or fighting. So take it slow like you did with your boyfriend ;)

That was funny Lori, but you forgot to say they can start very young too, at 4 months old. LOL

If you are going to be gone for a couple of days, just give her extra food, water, and an extra litterbox and leave her at home. Both cats will be traumatized if you bring your cat along when you visit your boyfriend, and it will result in someone starting to pee outside the litterbox, fights, and other very negative behaviors on the part of one or both cats. Cats are basically solitary creatures and do not do well with other cats in their territory. Doing it for brief periods occassionally is even worse, they won't get a chance to get used to each other at all. Don't do it.

Well they can't breed and produce kittens if that's what you mean.

However two adult cats meeting can get into fights because the current cat is defending territory and the newcomer can't retreat. It's not a good idea to have her face to face with a strange cat suddenly. Keeping her in a separate room is best, to avoid confrontations.

I did many 3 day events in the past where I left the cats home with extra food and a second litter box, they did very well. It was less stressful for them than bringing them to where I went.

Should be fine they may his at each other or hide and ignore you because they are mad (especially boyfriend cat cuz he brought someone new into house). He really should neuter him tho because sooner or later the cat mAy stRt spraying inside and that is stinky. Also if he gets outside he will find every "ready" girl and work on impregnating her ;). Usually cats have 4-8 kittens per litter. That's a lot of child support for one unemployed cat!!!! :)

I agree with the person above me.

The cat will be much happier staying home alone and your boyfriend's cat will be happy she is far away from him too.

Cats are territorial animals and there will be nothing but fighting and stress if you bring her with you.

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