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Well you see right, last year 2010 I was pregnant and sadly I lost my baby in May 2010 due to high blood pressure *sad face* the doctor then told me that I should wait for atleast a year before I could become pregnant again. Well during my pregnancy I didn't like my mother we would always argue because she always had me under pressure. So now after all of these I manage to console myself and told myself to be strong. But now my mother does not want me to become pregnant now because she feels that the people around me will think bad of me.
So now do you think I should ignore my mom and just make a baby or should I listen to her and stay sad because the thing I keep on getting the thoughts of my baby because she was a very big baby of 7months and 2 weeks and every time I get her pic in my mind and right after that I fall into depression like now I am so sad that I just feel like ending my life at some point because I always wonder why do I always want to please people and be sad at the end of the day.
What can I do to stop pleasing people and start thinking of me first?
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- katsura3568Lv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
I am so very sorry for your loss. :o(
Why does your mother think people will think badly of you if you become pregnant again? You make no mention of it so I have to ask........is it because you are not married or are not in a steady relationship? If so, I can understand her concern for you.
Having another baby will not replace the baby you lost, nor will it make you feel any better about her loss. Before becoming a mother again, you need to seek counselling to help you get through your grief. I worry that bringing a new baby into the mix might make matters worse, what with crazy hormones and all....
Do take care of yourself first: ask your doctor for a referral to a grief counsellor or perhaps there is a local support group for parents who lost babies or some other resource that you might benefit from. You don't have to walk this walk alone. *hugs*
- 1 decade ago
I'm sure if your Mother knows that the choice is between ending your life and conceiving a child she'd go with the latter. I know many people who become depressed after losing babies in the late stages of pregnancy, and reasonably so. I can't even imagine the pain you must be feeling. If you are financially stable, healthy and you feel you can provide the needs of a child, I say GO AHEAD!!! Good luck and God Bless!!!
ENDING YOUR LIFE IS NOT AN OPTION HERE!!!
