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IMO
Lv 6
IMO asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 1 decade ago

How do I get my kids to get ready faster in the morning?

I feel like most mornings are the same thing. They take way too long showering, eating, dressing. No one has time to make their bed or pick up their clothes because they seem to dawdle every second away. And if they get up 5 or 10 minutes late, they are really slow because they don't know how to hurry and take that extra time off of their routine.

I don't even want to insist on made beds right now, I'd settle for leaving the house on time without having to yell.

I know yelling isn't working. It's my own problem that I need to reel in. I don't normally yell, but when there's 10 minutes to go and my daughter is still in the shower, my own adrenaline is telling me to hurry, but obviously it doesn't transfer. ("Get out of the shower, we have to leave in 15 minutes" 5 minutes later "why are you still in the shower" "i don't care if you haven't finished, get out" )

I know yelling isn't the answer (through basic knowledge, and unfortunately, experience). Telling them what time it is doesn't work. Do I just have to take things away, ie ipod, phone, privileges? The worst ones are my middle school and high schooler. Surpringly enough, my elementary school child is the one who just gets ready and is done with it.

Ideas?

Update:

Good ideas...the older ones (high school and middle school) insist on morning shower, so I'll have to just work on shortening it.

@hulk....funny you should mention swimming. My middle schooler is in swimming in the morning, so she normally does that. A jump in the pool totally wakes her up better than parents. This week, their schedule has been changed up for testing reviews, so her swim class is after school, not before. I'm certainly feeling the morning routine change.

For anyone else looking for ideas, swimming in the am is a good one. Mine a small breakfast before and a small one after and I'm picky about their food choices, so she brings breakfast with her, but being around other people definitely helps her recognize how much time she has.

My husband and I are both efficient and punctual, so we are feeling frustrated with this week's mornings. I refuse to leave late, yet I don't want to resort to yelling and then everyone is grumpy.

I like the ideas about each item taki

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  • *Tina*
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Try making them shower at night, then lay out there clothes the night before also. Do as much as you can the night before. Keep a clothes hamper/ laundry basket in their room so they can just get dressed and throw their clothes in there. How old are your kids? Try having a discussion with them about time and even do a contest, weekly then monthly. Eventually morning will become a habit. Also decides what is priory and what can wait. Like you said made beds, or something. At first make sure the basics are being meet, dressed, groomed, and breakfast. Then after you guys got that down you can start on, OK lets try to at least straighten out the beds and pick up a bit. Don't worry about perfection on those things, after all nobody really sees them but you guys. (I'm a mother and am not good about making my bed, so I really don't care about beds, My own personally bad habit I guess, LOL).

    Wake them up 15 minutes before they get up, but also make sure they are going to bed at a decent time so they can get enough sleep. They could just be really tired from lack of sleep.

    Try some simple breakfast, instant oat mill with wheat bread, cereal and toast, cut up fruit and yogurt. (you could make a big bowl for the week). Stuff that would be easy to throw together but still off some nutrition.

  • I am not a mother of school aged childern yet but here are a few ideas and you can pick out what you want or adjust. Maybe get them up 30 min earlier and tell them until they can get everything done in the time you say then they have to get up early. Set a timer and say you have 20-30 min to shower,dress, I would pick 1 chore like make the bad and add another when they get better at their times, and get downstairs for breakfast. If they can't do it then they have to get up early, if they can then reward them with a little xtra sleep.

    also have their clothes picked out the night before and anything else they need done so it makes things quicker.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Have them look out their clothes the night before, make the lunch that night and put it in the fridge. Let them shower at night, but if that isn't an option then have the two younger ones share a shower, followed by the two older ones.

    If the bus comes at 7:30am, they need to be up at 6:00am. This will give them enough time to get dressed, eat, and out the door.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Get them into swimming squads in the mornings... its really funny cause i had this exact same problem with my 2 boys (9 &5 yo). They both did swimming squads in the afternoons but i was forced to change to mornings, i thought this would make things a thousand times worse but incredibly they are both awesome.

    My eldest swims every morning before school and is awake at 5.45 and off to swimming, his brother swims 3 days a week and this begins at 6.45. they both finish at 8am and have showers and breaky at the pool and still get to school by 8.25am. The best part is that all i have to do is make the bed when i get home. breakfast is eaten at the pool, there are timelimits in the shower and they race to get dressed because they get cold otherwise....

    it works wonders and is great discipline...

    Source(s): Single Dad raising 2 boys
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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Get a timer for the shower head. You can set it for different times. After 7 minutes you can have it so it shuts off. She'll be fast if she's scared there will still be shampoo in her hair to go to school.

    By the time I was in middle school, I was getting myself ready and to the bus with no problems. This was because I was raised in a strict household and I knew my parents wouldn't stand for it. They are pulling this stuff on you because they know you'll take it.

    If it takes them more time than they have to get ready, wake them up earlier...even if they have to get up at 5:00.

  • 1 decade ago

    Wake them up earlier, Make them make there own breakfast,and put time limits to how long they can be in the bathroom.If they are not ready by the time you leave oh well your going to school the way just the way you are. it may seem like your being cruel but that's how you have to approach this issue.They are just gonna keep doing the same thing otherwise

  • ?
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I suggest letting them take a shower in the evening before bed that will free up more time for them to get ready in the morning.

  • 1 decade ago

    Get them up earlier. Have them take their showers at night so they won't need one in the morning. And if they don't hurry you'll make them go in their pjs. Threaten to embarrass them.. that if they aren't ready at a certain time you're barging in and finishing for them. I've never had to live up to the threat and don't plan on it, but it worked. The last thing my preteens would want is me treating them like they are toddlers. I threaten to.. they get the lead out.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well for starters you could make them all take bathes the night before that way u get that out of the way... also try setting your clocks ahead a little bit and get them up a little early that way they think they r running late and need to hurry

  • 1 decade ago

    Have them shower before bed so they get more time in the morning. Also try to get them to bed earlier, i know it worked wonders with my little brother who had the same issue in the mornings. Since he goes to bed earlier he seems to be finished on time

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