my wife expired due to cancer in young age what i have to do alone?

go out and date. find someone new. move on

I am terribly sorry for your loss. It must be so hard for you and your son. You have all my sympathies in such a difficult moment.

Your life is not over, and you are by no means condemned to loneliness. But do not rush. Even if this seems difficult for you to believe, the pain will fade away at some point.

For the beginning, try to live your life as if your wife was just asleep in the next room. It may seems like burying your head in the sand, and maybe it is, but it's only for a while, and whatever helps easing the pain is good. The most important is to go on. In the beginning anyway you won't really "believe" she is gone for real. That is normal.

Then, after some time, you'll start realizing that she will never wake up. You will feel angry, desperate, you'll cry, you will doubt your faith (if you have any), and so on and so forth. This is a normal reaction, it's grief. It is a phase and you'll go trough it. You'll think of all the memories with her and it will hurt you. The good memories because you'll realize there will be no more, the bad memories because you will regret every single fight you might have had with her. This will be the most difficult time.

Then, after a while, the memories of your wife will make you smile. You'll remember her fondly, and the pain will be less. I cannot give you a timing, it depends on people. Maybe a year ? Maybe ten years ? I do not know. But at that moment, when you'll be able to remember your wife and laugh, and smile, and talk about her to other people openly, then you'll be ready.

And when you are ready, go out in the world, and meet people. I am sure there will be a woman there, waiting for you, ready to understand you. A woman who will respect your wife, and your love for your wife. And when you see this woman, if you think "oh, my wife would have loved her, those two would have been good friends", then you'll know she is good for you. And you'll feel as if your wife is looking upon your shoulder and telling "go ahead, I like her". Then, go for it.

Be patient. Try to live trough it, you have to, for your son. I know the pain must be unbearable right now, but it will fade away, slowly... Many people will tell you "it's time to move on", "it's been X months already". Don't listen to them. The only person who can know when you are ready to move on is you. Not them. It is your choice and your timing. Nobody can decide it for you or push you. Take your time.

Until then, be brave... and cry. It really helps to let the pain out.

I am sorry for your loss. The best thing you can do is try to keep things as normal and emotionally stable as possible for your son's sake, if he is still living at home. Death of a spouse is very hard on the remaining partner. Loneliness is a terrible thing. You should reach out to a support group, where others can relate to you, your grieving, and basically everything you are experiencing. There you may also meet ppl, possibly another woman for friendship or companionship.

I understand it is very difficult to pass the time without partner after coming back from the work.You can not go for second marriage because you have young son of 18 years.What he will think, his whole life is there.Its better you devote your time with your son and small family.You treat your son as your friend and help him in his study and other activities.

First I'm very sorry for the loss of your wife. But you sound like a very loving and devoted husband thru it all - that is what marriage is about - the good and the bad.

But your family now needs some serious grief counseling to help you get thru the next stages. Check your local churches for grief counseling for yourself and your children.

Dear Haritasa,

I belong to same Gotra as yours.

Instead of spoiling your one way life, search for a suitable companion, who can look after you and your son as her own son (No woman is having such a generous heart to take somebody's child as her own child, this is the worst tendency in them). Even it is difficult to convince your son too regarding your remarriage, though there is no impediment of law.

But avoid divorcees and widows as they are very dangerous. Only search for unmarried girls suitable to your age or try to get a girl friend and continue living in relationship with her to get rid of your manly instinct and so called loneliness.

You will get aunties who are desperate house wives who want people like you.

I can understand your problem better than anybody else.

All the best.

You have to spend some time reflecting or praying for your wife, your kids need to see how their father deals with death. Show your strength and your sensibility for the pain you and your kids go through. The biggest lesson is to realize how important is to be alive and be good to your love ones by appreciating them every day as if it was their last one. Don't date for a long time until your kids go to college and are out on their own.

turn to Jesus.