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Cat asked in PetsCats · 10 years ago

two new cats, a few questions.?

Hi there, we recently got 2 cats from cat protection. They are 7 months old and siblings, a boy and a girl. The boy is twice the size of the girl, they have both settled well and are very affectionate. My questions are about dominance really. They have separate food bowls and we feed them at the same time with their bowls close by each other.... the male cat always pushes in first and when the girl comes over he growls at her, a very low growl. Even although she would be going to her bowl. She seems very nervous around him. Is this normal? Also, they got on very well when we first brought them home, they groomed one another and played together, but in the last 2 weeks, they aren't really spending any time together and the boy chases the girl away a lot. If she is lying on the bed and I am there, he has jumped onto the bed and attacked her to make her get down and he will lie there. I am just wondering if this is normal behaviour and why they seem to have changed so much since they came to our house. We give them both a lot of attention, they just seem to not like each other any more.

Thanks.

Update:

Hi guys, both cats have been fixed. Thanks for all the comments and suggestions so far, I've been looking at cat trees so think i'll get one asap. I also like the idea of lots of meals through the day. The male does seem to gorge himself a bit!!!

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  • 10 years ago
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    He is asserting his dominance. They have to establish their own territories within the house and garden. They will settle down, but it may take some time. Don't reprimand him, or separate them, unless he injures her. If her attacks her when she is sitting with you, tell him off, or make a noise to him to let him know that YOU are dominant over him.

    Make sure that the food bowls are at either side of the room - he will probably eat from her plate AND his own. Leave them to it, just so long as she is getting enough to eat. Male cats are a lot bigger than females, so he will need a bit more food than she does, anyway.

    Stroke one cat, the the other, then the 1st cat again. This will transfer your scent to each cat, as well as one cat's scent to another.

    Make sure that the female cat has a quiet place to retreat to, of her own. One of my 2 female cats (had them both 8 yrs, but they are not related) retreats to my wardrobe, for a bit of peace and quiet. It is the only place where the other female doesn't bother to go.

    Source(s): I've got 3 cats. 2 famales, 1 male. The male is 16lb, and muscular. He's a recent addition (was a astray I took in) but the girls dominate him. The bigger female dominates the smaller girl. I've had cats for 31yrs
  • Beth
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    The male is trying to dominate the female. He might be trying to drive her away so that he can establish his territory and start looking for females that are not from his family.

    Do the following: Make sure that they are both spayed and neutered, or else they will mate.

    Move their food and water bowls to where they cannot see each other while they eat; this way, the boy won't be jealous and the girl can relax. Give each cat its own litter box, ideally in separate locations.

    Get the cats the climbing structure called a cat tree, so that each cat has a chance to get away from the other one. Cats like to be up high. It makes them feel safe. Both of your cats could benefit from the cat tree, or any other way to climb and feel safe. If you don't get the cat tree, at least get them scratching posts, so that they have places to mark with their scent and stretch their claws and muscles.

    Play with each cat every day, especially since they are kittens. There are toys that are supposed to look like birds or mice on a string. Cats especially love these toys because they feel like they are hunting.

    If he gets too pushy, she might fight him back. Then he will think twice about starting an argument.

    Source(s): Owner of two unrelated cats who had to get used to each other. I have seen cat trees work wonders on the American show, "My Cat From Hell" (or something like that). It's probably on the Animal Planet website.
  • ?
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    i have 3 cats. Momma cat and her two sons. There are also dominance issues, between the Mama and her children.

    things i can recommend:

    -play with the cats together,

    -don't favor one cat over the other,

    -make sure they always have enough food so there are no issues that one is not getting enough or is jealous of the other's food. and feed them more regularly, like 4 times a day. once they get used to the fact that food is not something to fight over, things should calm down at feeding times. My cat really didn't like being fed only 2 times a day and would attack the other cats and try to eat everybody's food at once. And he would always eat so much he would throw up a few minutes later.. Now that I feed them frequently throughout the day they know they don't have to stuff themselves with food and fight over it.

    - put your cats bowls about a yard away from each other.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    hi

    dominance is normal in all animals but he should really not be attacking her i would ask the rescue for some advice your ask your vet really

    as for the feeding times move the females bowl away from his or in another room or try putting her food down first but i would really seek advice from a vet x

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Hi..I think its quite normal..I have 2 cats.a male and a female.they aren't however siblings.the female is the elder one.she does the exact same thing your 'big brother' does.lol

    She growls when I put down food she really loves.like chicken for example.she just refuses to let him eat..the funny thing is,they really like each other.they groom one another and stuff like that..so I think its normal.dnt worry!hope I helped!!

    Source(s): Experience
  • ?
    Lv 5
    10 years ago

    Are they fixed? If not, that's your answer.

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