Why do so many people see marriage as disposable?

Clearly you have not been in a situation like this Rick ?

Most of us suggest ideas if we think it will work

We only say leave if even we see no hope for it to work

Its not that we see it as disposable but they do ?

You both need to want this for it to work

Its no good if only one of you tries

I believe marriage is a wonderful institution that serves human needs when you are yoked together with an equal, loving and caring partner that understands the total commitment of vows they took.

Although you are right! There are some (not many) selfish couples who see marriage as disposable, they’ll fight over insignificant things before, during and even after the marriage through their own selfish needs, but aren’t willing to fight to stay together in the marriage. However, I don’t believe it’s as many people united as a couple who see marriage as disposable, or a means to the end as completing who they are as a person, it’s just that not all troubled marriages can be saved, particularly in abusive situations.

I am with you 100% on that! I get so irritated with the "just leave" answer and wonder how delusional those people are when they sum it up by saying their spouse is perfect and would never....I mean we as humans are flawed and so will our marriages be. You can be married 5 times and never find perfection, because perfection doesn't exsist. I have wished so many times that we were back in the era of anti-divorce and such so when you ask for opinions you get people actually trying to help you save your marriage instead of those dead against raising our 50% divorce rate!

Love is not and will never exist if only one person tries to make it work...It takes 2 to tango. Also if its getting physical a divorce is better...why wait to be killed??? If a marriage is not making you happy then why live like that...Not only does it affect your health but also you kids if any. I grew up in a family were my parent were constantly arguing and many times i was told it was because of me, I was yelled at because they were mad at each other, Its not healthy to live like this

Because at some point "trying" becomes impossible.

Do you really think people don't actually TRY to fix their marital problems? I doubt that. But at some point it becomes pointless because either you're not happy yourself, or your partner isn't happy. And why live life like that?

I wouldn't stay in a marriage i wasn't happy in. I'd giver a try, but in the end if i'm not happy then i'm going to make myself happy.

So if you are never going to get everything you want out of a marriage, why be in one?

doesnt it say for better or worst

wife... is.... frigid....