How should I handle this situation? ?

Simply tell your daughter NOT to ans. her calls when this mother calls her. Let it go to voice mail & she can so easily delete it not have to contend with it. Scott will soon be home, when he is, they can all get things straightened out & she can then decide just who she wants to date. Let them do the figuring out. But tell her not to accept the unacceptable from this mother. She really has no rite to be meddling in her adult son's affairs to begin with. That too could be a red flag to her against getting involved with a son who has a mother such as he has. She spells nothing but problems & trouble. Who wants to get involved with someone with baggage! I'm also SURE all the women in work & town are fully aware of just what kind of a person she is & take her with a grain of salt! She evidently has an interfering personality that ALL are well aware of. Things will soon be settled, just know that & tell your daughter to try her best to ignore getting herself all upset...the best to you all...:)

This is all drama, but at the end of the day, your daughter has a good support system and is going to start a job soon and SHOULD focus on that, not what his 'away from home' boyfriend's mother is saying about her.

Please make her block this woman's number on her cell phone and cut off all contact with her or even John - she doesn't need to know why she's been cut off. when Scott comes back, then your daughter and him can sort it out between the two of them. Just because someone's talking badly about her, your daughter shouldn't have to give up on a good opportunity and happiness in life.

Well, Mom, who is it that your daughter is interested in? If there is no chance of interest in John other than platonic friendship, your daughter should find time to speak with him privately, and let him know where he stands. She can take that opportunity to state that while his mother was not a factor in her just liking him as a friend, as his friend, she wants to let him know that his mother's natural tendency to be a butt-in-ski makes her "MILFH" material (mother-in-law-from-HELL) and may end up interfering with or ruining the relationship with the woman who becomes his wife.

As for Scott's mother, here's a test for Scott. When he returns home from his trip, your daughter should let him know what went on with John's mother. She should be very neutral but let Scott know that she expects him to speak to his mother about it, to find out how much of what was allegedly said is true. Words to Scott could be something like "I honestly don't know what to believe about all of this, Scott, but I'd really like you to talk to your Mom and find out if she does have some sort of problem with me and my family. I would be very hurt to learn that and really hope that you are able to let your Mom know that she really shouldn't be trying to interfere with our relationship."

The extent to which he follows through with that request will be the extent to which he passes his "Man 101" final exam.

As you said yourself, your daughter can take care of herself. But that does not mean that your daughter does not need guidance in situations similar to this. So have a word with her and explain to her, that the man she likes, stick with him if she really likes him and etc. But explain to her how people would do things to keep their sons happy and have a good life. As you said explain to her that John's mother is only trying to trick you to, and tell your daugther that she should have a word with Scott. Because these roumors are not good and can upset many people.

I hope your daughter stays with Scott and that the story that John's mother is only lieing.

Take care

"marriage and divorce" category problem Mom?

Get a grip.

Read.

Hardly qualifies.

Grace

Step aside Mamma.

One meddling Mom is enough, yes?

she must pick one .so the other knows to leave her alone ..its the only way .. good luck to you all