Adults only wedding invite, totally inconvenient.?

People have lost track of what wedding are about.

Wedding are about family. Having an "adults only" reception is very rude. Destination weddings in random locations that everyone has to travel to make things needlessly difficult.

However, don't ask for an exception. I like the suggestion of sending your husband and staying home.

You could possibly arrange a baby-sitter through the hotel that you stayed at . Ring some hotels in the area & ask if they can recommend any local baby sitting services. That way you would only need to have your daughter looked after for a few hours. *** I used to work for a baby-sitting agency & often did sits like that. I would go to the hotel room ***

If you wanted to minimise costs - you may be able to take your daughter to the ceremony - then have her looked after during the reception.

What about your parents or any close friends?

This scenario is one you are likely to come across again.

I have also been to weddings where the only children in attendance have been those of the couple or ones in the bridal party.

YOU had your wedding the way you wanted it - Accept their decision to do the same !!!

Your brother's parents will be at the wedding and so can't look after your child. Can your parents do it instead?

"Now, I understand that it's their wedding, and they can do it however they like"

Ah, good. For a minute there, I thought you expected their wedding to revolve around you and your child.

"except for two little problems that I've got."

Oh. You DO expect their wedding to revolve around you and your child. That's kinda rude and inconsiderate.

"The other problem I have is that it's "Adults only, except for our own kids". I heard from several people that while nobody else is allowed to bring kids, their own 4 year old and 1 year old will be in attendance. This seems a bit unfair to me."

Of course it's fair. Grow up.

"If kids aren't allowed, then why are theirs coming? And if theirs are coming, other people should be allowed to bring their kids too."

Their kids are going because it's their parents' wedding. Seems fair enough, to me.

You know what? I think you should RSVP 'No'. For their sake. Why on earth would they want you at the wedding. You're obviously determined to be a grump, and no-one wants a grump at their wedding.

You think it's unfair that their own kids will be there but nobody Else's kids are invited? Really? Do you expect them to leave their own kids at home? When did this become about you? Many people dont want little kids running around at a party..nothing wrong with that. People get married all the time and can't accommodate everyone. Why can't you all just go and hire a sitter from a service to stay with your child in the hotel room? Isn't this your husbands brother getting married? He should at least go.

Can your husband just go? I'm sure you'd like to attend, but it appears it will be a true PITA for you all to attend (for all your reasons listed), so I'd say you decline and your hubby can attend his brother's wedding. I do NOT think it's fair that you ask your hubby to stay home if you cannot attend; this is his brother and if he's able to go, he should.

I don't see anything unfair for them to just want their kids there--they are paying for the party. In fact, seems odd you seem surprised that they wouldn't want their own kids there to celebrate with them.

And, don't let this ruin your relationship with the BIL and his fiancee, OK? Not everyone wants kids at their wedding, and it's not a crime.

Either RSVP no, or attend without the kid. They don't want kids at their wedding, point blank, except for theirs. Just because you were lucky and had no disruptions at your wedding doesn't guarantee that they'll be that lucky too. I've seen many weddings disrupted and even ruined by children.

I guess one of you stays home. I know it is an inconvenience to you, but you have to do as they requested. Other than trying to find a sitter in town for a few hours your stuck. Maybe you can find someone that is willing to watch them until the ceremony is over. Ask your bother in law if they know anyone they trust.

Too bad if you don't like their rules. You either don't bring your kids or don't go to the wedding at all. You DON'T ask for an exception. They don't want other kids at their wedding and that includes yours.

It is fair. They know how to control their own children, but not other people's.

How rude and inconvenient for them to have a Adult Only wedding. If it was in Hawaii it would cost a lot more and it would be a long flight also. So what I see here is finding someone to watch your kids. You could fly there on southwest they are cheaper then everyone else and you can just stay one night them fly back. . With gas prices the way they are and who knows what they will be when the wedding is so it might be less expensive to fly. You must have a friend you trust and willing to watch your kids and most likely they won't charge you for their kindness. You can do it for them sometime if they want a night and day to themselves. This is your friends wedding and you know how women are and how it is all about them and their day so don't rock the boat. Just imagine a day and night in sunny Ca. without the kids. Just you and your husband after a romantic wedding and the party after wards with drinking and having fun with friends and family. You just might get very lucky that night Sounds good to me, have a great time at the wedding.

RSVP your regrets. If they really want you to come, they will call and say so and that is your opportunity to say that you cannot leave your child with a stranger . Maybe then they will invite you but it is rude to ask them. Let them ask you why you cant come.