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What is going on with my Libra dude?
We're just over the honeymoon stage and quite in love. He is floundering a bit however.
He appears to be sure of me..and says he loves me and wants to live with me. He is also taking me to meet his family in
another state next month. However, there is some distance there that I find confusing. He used to make advanced plans with me
and there was always a passionate urgency with sex. Recently, more time goes by..and I have to bring up "When am I going to see you
again?" And then he promptly says he will come over the following evening. Is he lazy, comfortable, or what? It doesn't make this little
Leo feel so good having to initiate everything! Both of us have gotten new jobs, and there's a schedule shift..so maybe that's it?
Is that just a Libra being passive/lazy/comfortable, or could there be something under the surface that is wrong?
I just miss him in more than one way and I'm feeling frusterated that he doesn't appear to be feeling it with the degree that I am.
Should I pull back so he initiates more? Or just say what I want and always be the one on the ball.
ps. he is definately not seeing anyone else. very loyal and a bit of a loner. he literally just goes home after work and draws.
VCHARM: Who said I was married!?! You're way off base. I guess the honeymoon comment threw you. I mean't the 'honeymoon' period of dating to clarify.
ALL MY INTENSITY: I feel perhaps you are misunderstanding me although there are still relevant points. Yes, I can be pushy sometimes. So can he. But there is great kindness an understanding within our relationship. I don't expect him to come to me. We are pretty equal about traveling to see one another and on the contrary I'd prefer to stay with him. He lives closer to my work after all. I not have to initiate everything, but many things- yes. I feel I had let things go on their own and we're not seeing one another as much as I'd wish which is causing pent up frusteration on my end. After I mentioned "Will I ever see u again" and his response was " I'll come over tomorrow" I said, "If I hadn't have said that would I ever see you." He couldn't give me a straight response for that, instead gave some vaguely pleasing compliment. I let it rest there because I felt it best rather than start a fight over nothing. Distance is fine...b
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- Libra EmpressLv 49 years agoFavorite Answer
He thinks ur ok with initiating stuff. Talk to him about what u want. He will happy to make the relationship better.
- All My IntensityLv 69 years ago
hmmm, I feel perhaps there's some pushiness in the relationship. I mean do you always have to intiate everything. what if you let things go on their own? what if you let things be natural? because the question comes up, "will he act the way you want him to when you influence him" "will he act how he wants to without your influence?" every relationship has a sort of distance, you might too. distance can perhaps be space. like space to what you want without another's influence. if your libra guy asked you to come over to his house everyday, and you were tired from work, wouldn't you feel a bit pushed by him. cuz you know he's your boyfriend but you are tired and want to sleep. I hope you don't misunderstood that distnace is bad in relatioships. I think distance means to be able to know that you can do things on your own, while the other still rembering how great a bond there is. If he does things on his own, naturally, that is very sincere
edit: I read your conversation with him. eyah, you know, I really don't want to hurt your feelings, but honestly I can see how that can be a bit pushy...I mean, I don't suggest holding root feelings in..I suggest exploring why and how you are feeling this way. Maybe take a time to reflect. like in nature or somewhere that brings you tranquility. your reflection should give you answers to why you feel this way. buy something nice for yourself. or you know do something happy for you.
Source(s): libra sun cancer moon - Anonymous9 years ago
Welcome to marriage Leo. Theirs going to be a lot more bumps along the way. If you both truly love each other you'll get through it. No one said marriage was easy.
- Anonymous9 years ago
I'm pretty sure a good-heart person will help you with your doubt.
