Is it weird to be 35 and living with Mom and Dad?

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I'm 35, living with my parents due to being disabled from my mental health issues. I've been on a waiting list for housing support in a nearby town and it's finally come through. If everything comes together I'll be moving out. My dad just gave me crap about it. Is that weird?

I have irreconcilable differences with my dad and really need to move out. But why does he always insist I stay living with them?

I guess I could list my symptoms...
1) I'm diagnosed bipolar and suicide is on the table with me. I have a long list of previous DXs but that's the current one.
2) My previous living situation ended because I believed my neighbors (guy right above me in an apartment complex) were dealing drugs from their apartment. I'm about 80% sure they really were and it wasn't just in my head. I called the cops on them. (This was technically a suicide attempt...death by drug dealer... piss off a drug dealer until they want to kill you... all they did was scratch up my car though...)So I moved back in with my parents before they did something that I did care about like taking out my tires.

My irreconcilable differences with my dad:
1) My dad is a faith healer. Watching his ministry, I've seen at least one person die due to stopping medication. I consider his profession only one step away from criminal activity. (and in fact he straddles the fence with practicing medicine without being a doctor. He has to be extremely careful what he says in regards to medicine or he crosses that line.)
2) My dad would rather fly me to Phoenix, Arizona for deliverance from demons rather than have me accept professional treatment. He's given me crap for calling a suicide hot-line before.
3) I have a few crossed wires sexually. I'm still a virgin at 35 and don't feel a strong need to change it. I sometimes think about it and think I would rather be in a homosexual relationship than a heterosexual relationship. If I want to explore my sexuality, I don't think it's happening living with parents. I have an urge to build a sex-bot. (a she-male sex-bot none the less...) I don't think I could get away with it living with my parents.

Am I wrong to want to move out?

keen-man · Accepted Answer

first of all to say the definition of weird is very vague i would say it's abnormal but to most peoples worlds so they would see you as weird, but you would see yourself as normal. You have been living with your parents a little longer than usual, and you may have a good reason, whether it is the economy, not having enough money, parents may need your help with living (no offense but may have cancer or a mental illness) etc. But i personally say it is a good time for you to be moving out, and not just because your father. You need to become indipendant, and that involves moving out. I'm sorry but i say just move out. There's nothing a girl hates more than a guy whos 35 and lives with his parents.

Fer · Answer

If u are able to write such a detailed and comprehensive question and explanation. Then yes u are weird for not moving out and leaving ur parents breathing room

Ur over thinking stuff way too much. Suicide? Come on just relax for a sec. Ur dad is obviously against because of his affiliations. It's normal since he's limited from seeing more than just bad things In the world. Those sexual feelings are from too much wondering. U may hear bunch of crap bout relationships with girls but, in the end the good and bad things are what we live for

nikki bbz · Answer

do you really care if people think its weird or not! Its your life at the end of the day. My uncle is 45 and still lives with his mum and i dont blame him his life is pretty good! And for feeling suicidal etc! Im sorry but people who are suicidal slightly annoy me because im a christian and believe people that kill themselves will get no forgiveness and go straight to hell. and i know that its trrue! It also annoys mee because god has put you here for a reason. And because life isnt perfect or things havent gone the way you planned people just give up when some people would die for your life! So my advice is join a church, get help by him and doctors ect and get on with your life! Good luck

tangerine · Answer

You need to move out ASAP. Also, if you can, try dating both men and women and see which you like better.

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