tips to socialize with other moms and make friends for my child?

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I had my child when I was 16 years old.. I have always been the type to want to be part of mom groups in my area, such as stroller groups, park play dates.. and so on. I have had no issue with having mom friends that are close to my age, but there seems to be a road block when it comes to meeting older mothers. I am not sure if older mothers really do pitty me, or think badly of me that I am a young mom. So, moms out there.. if our children were in elementary school together and I introduced myself and offered to have a play date at the local park, or exchange numbers so that out children can be friends, would you be hesitant because I am younger than you. I do not want my own insecurities or misconceptions of myself  and others to effect my daughter and deprive her of quality friendships with children outside of school.. I just do not know how to go about making acquaintances with the older, married, stable type of moms that have children in my daughters class.

StayAtHomeMomOnTheGo · Accepted Answer

I had my first child at 19 and I had a lot of the same fears as you, I really think the majority of it was ME (I am extremely shy and self conscious) but I do think there was some validation to those fears.
I am now an "older mother" (mid-thirties) and I think that more experienced mothers need to take the opportunity to befriend younger mothers and use the opportunity to be good role models and influences on them rather than shunning them.

My advice to you is to just set up the playdates and move from there.  Age should not be the most important factor- do not lie about or hide your age, but it is just not the first thing I bring up and if you do not act immature, it is not the first thing they are going to notice about you either.

Know that not everyone is going to accept your invitations, though- many families, especially those with multiple children, just can not accept every invitation they receive.

kristi · Answer

I'm 25 almost 26 and have the same problem. I had my son at 24 but I look like I'm 16 at the max. So when my son and I go out a lot of the parents won't let their children play with my son. I also hear a lot of comments like omg I can't believe she has a baby she's like 12.. But like I said in actuality I'm 25 and have been married for 6 years lol. I've been going to the local library more often and have met a couple of nice younger moms.

Momof4 · Answer

I am part of a playgroup. We meet at a park once every week, and we have moms that are 17 and we have moms that are in their late thirties. All of us have babies or toddlers, many of the other moms also have older kids that are in school during that time. We are all good friends, age seems to stop mattering at that point, although those of us that are a little younger often ask for parenting advise from the older moms with older kids.

algebra · Answer

:) you love your baby and that's all that matters.   Other moms always try and talk to me because my toddler iis so outgoing, but I just don't have the time or energy for new friends.  Maybe they are just like me super busy stressed and flustered all the time.  Best of luck

? · Answer

don't go out of your way... just make friends w/ the people who you gravitate to & who gravitate to you naturally & you'll have plenty of people in your life..
it's great that you think ahead like this for your daughter, though

good luck  :)

Anonymous · Answer

here is a tip...

Let your kid make their own friends

did your mommy run around trying to make friend for you?

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