Am I being irrational?

What you should do is tell him that if he doesn't start holding up his end of the bargain regarding you being home with the kids, you're going to consider the arrangement null and void, and go to work. Tell him further that if he doesn't want to "allow" the kids to go to daycare, fine, but HE will need to figure out how they will be cared for when you return to work. And then follow through.

You can only be taken advantage of with your consent - so stop giving it.

In my opinion to your side of the story (because there are AWLWAYS two lol) you should be demanding some of the neccesaties that every person needs. You shouldn't have to ask your husband to go and get a haircut it should be something that is done regularly. If he has two cars then tell him that you need one throughout the day. Not only is that EXTREMELY controlling it is also dangerous to you and your kids. If there was an emergency, how do you plan on getting help asap? I think every marriage should really try till the very end, and divorce should be the LAST resort.... unless he was abusive or mentally abusive to you or your kids. Talk to him about it, let him know you feel in a way "stranded." If he doesn't make an effort or understand where your coming from then you need to put your foot down and start demanding some things! Best of luck.

1. Under the circumstances you're in, he doesn't get $710 of a car payment.

2. He doesn't need to give you money, you should be on the account with him. You might both agree on a budget, but you aren't locked out of the money.

3. You don't own vehicles that you can't drive. Sell the expensive truck if you need to get the paid off one running.

4. He doesn't get to build a house under these circumstances.

5. With a $700 truck payment, he doesn't have a "plan" that's going to work.

6. Let him know that with alimony and child support x 2, the house he wants to build he won't be living in. Nor will he be with his kids and wife.

7. Yes, you're headed for divorce, because he's pushing you that way.

Yes, your husband is the "breadwinner" of the family. But, he should not also be the sole decision maker. You and he should be making decisions together for the good of the family.

Your husband is making a decent salary, Keep tabs (a money diary) of how the money is being spent. Maybe a visit to a financial adviser would be helpful.

You should not feel like a burden to your husband when you ask for money for yourself. You should share in the money that he makes for a living. He sounds like a very selfish man.

I, too, am a stay-at-home mom with two children. My husband visits the bank once a week, and gives me half of whatever amount he withdraws. We're equal partners in our marriage, even though he is the one that actually makes the money.

Regarding the children. Why home-schooled? You need a break, the kids need to get out and socialize.

In addition to being selfish, your husband is also very controlling. Not a good combination if a marriage is going to succeed.

To answer your question, NO, you are not being irrational.

Who is managing the money? You or him?

If he makes over $80 K a year, you guys can afford another vehicle, clothing and haircuts.

Unless he's spending it faster than he earns, keeping you from basic necessities is ridiculous.

Put your foot down and tell him you want your hair cut and some clothing that fits, period.

And finish your degree!!!!! Then you'll have access to your own source of income and he can't stop you from putting gas in the truck and going out.

sounds to me like you are going to go get a job on the week-ends while he is home and can care for the children - at that time he can decide what is more important his free time on the week-ends or a little spending cash for you . . .he can stay home without a vehicle while you are away at work and then when you get your paycheck - you go get some clothes and a hair cut!

compromise is one thing -control is what is happening here - not even a haircut? seriously?

How do you plan to manage homeschooling your children and working?

Will you open a daycare?

Is homeschooling your children and working what you want for your life?

Do you have a career?

When can the kids enter school?

What is your husbands role in your relationship?

Yes it's wrong for you to think that other people should provide YOU with things. Your excuse for not working is LAME. Get off your butt and get a job and go get childcare like every other woman in the universe.

You are irratational beacause you husband did not support you and he is making $86,000 per year so that is enough for you and your family.He should care you properly your haircut,your fitness,your clothes etc all you need.If you are not happy with your husband you will take divorce.Hope this answer will help.

well yeah he should provide for you if he wants you to be a stay at home mom, how else are you going to get **** you need.

it sounds like a talk with is in order, just saying