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Breakup and getting back together advice please?

My girlfriend of 10 months just broke up with me yesterday. She was my first girlfriend even though I'm 20 now, but I absolutely knew I loved her... and not just loved her, but I knew even without being in other relationships that she was THE ONE. I really only saw myself living with her for the rest of my life, and even though I may have wanted some time to hook up with a few more girls or be on my own for a while, I can't handle the idea of us being apart. I have nobody to talk to the way I did with her, Nobody feels like her. It was like everything I did was only to kill time until I saw her again. And now that she's gone, I have no desire to do anything, I only think about her and getting back together with her, and I cant even sleep to numb everything for a few hours because I'm stuck thinking and writhing about it.

We didn't end badly at all, she still really loves me and knows I do for her. But I was in a terrible emotional place when we first met, and it must have resonated through our relationship. In the end, she realized that she hadn't been happy for a long time because she felt like I could not be consoled ever and she decided that at least the way we had been, she could not stay in that relationship. But I really think that I am infinitely better than I was, and if we were together even now it would work. She really does love me, and she regards me as her first real relationship, and that I was a truly special person to her... plus we'll be friends after a few weeks of tourturous silence.

What should I do? I should probably try to live my life and take advantage of the time I have as single now, but I really don't want to or feel like it. All I can think about is waiting a few months, and maybe (I hope not) a year until we feel alright to get back together. Does anyone have any experience getting back together with a girlfriend? Does it work in your or my circumstance? Literally all I want in life is her, I've never had many real aspirations, but I know that the only thing that makes me feel whole and complete and happy is her.

PS sorry this is so long...

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  • 8 years ago
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    You have reached the age where building your own life and developing your own hobbies and drive and interests and direction is what humans, in general, expect foremost from you. It is what they want to see, how they decide who you are, how they form their opinion of you.

    " Literally all I want in life is her, I've never had many real aspirations, but I know that the only thing that makes me feel whole and complete and happy is her." This is very sweetly romantic ... and also quite Romeo in temperament. Romeo was not yet 17 years old.

    Build a grown up life. My guess is that would go a long way towards your ex girlfriend thinking you might be developing into an interesting man. Be your own lifeline. No one else can hold up in that job for long. Learn to stand on your own. Show the world you are going through a rebirth that includes a passion for your work, the development of interests, social and political concerns, an education and an expanding social network. You will look more interesting to everyone. You'll feel more interesting too. Find yourself interesting. Work on developing yourself. It'll be fun! Try it.

  • 5 years ago

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