I'm a Christian woman in an unhealthy mentally emotionally verbally and physically abusive marriage?

Why did you marry this man?

I think your Christian faith should not have a problem with you leaving a bad marriage. If he gets angry or critical of you, then you may be able to deal with it but if he's physically hurting you then that should be a deal breaker.

If you decide to stay, you shouldn't bring children into an environment like that.

I was listening to a Christian bible study on the radio one night and this question came up. The expert said that no one should stay in an unhealthy mentally emotionally verbally and physically abusive marriage for the sake of the kids, God, or marriage vows.

Pack up what you can, perhaps leaving it with a friend or trusted person. Find a domestic violence shelter to get more advice.

Hi Sarah,

I left my husband after 26 years of marriage due to verbal and psychological abuse. We have one 21 year old son. I saw warning signs before we married. Unfortunately I ignored them and we paid the price. We were in counseling for a long time with no success. The light bulb came on finally one day. God gave me the courage to look him in the eye and tell him that I wanted a divorce. I had tried to separate from him 3 or 4 times before with no success due to the guilt he heaped on me. It is going to take time to heal but I truly believe in my heart that I made the right choice. I have much more peace and stability in my life now as well as our son.

Its easy enough for everyone to say get out, obviously you love this man and walking away and admitting the marriage is over is far from easy. I feel for you, ive been there myself, and i went through years of it the threats of what would happen to me if i left. And one day i left, he took my children ruined my life. I grew strong and fought back and got my children back, and now... this man wouldnt dare mess wth me. I became strong and rebuilt my life. It wont get better. Dont keep holding onto to what he used to be like, and how he used to treat you, that person is gone, neva to return. He became the man he always was, its only now you are able to see this. He wont change, and staying in that situation is extremely unhealthy as you kno. You have freinds, family someone you can talk to for help? Admit theres a problem, swallow your pride and get the hell out, it will get worse if you dont.

Call the police and report your husbands physical violence against you. Contact an abuse hotline and get information of how to get out and where to go as well as qualified legal advice. Get out. File protection order, file for divorce. Press charges to the fullest extent possible.

The fact that you yourself are calling your relationship unhealthy and abusive is a reason to get out. It will only get worse. What if you get pregnant or end up dead. Leave this person and get a PPO. Immediately...

Does being Christian stop you from seeing the obvious? Get out, get your life back, get started on healing, physically and mentally. Good luck.

You certainly didn't marry a Christian.

He has destroyed your marriage, he failed his promise and sinned against God and against you.

You must not be with him anymore.

You should pray, and seek advise from a woman's abuse center.