I'm a Christian woman in a mentally verbally emotionally and physically abusive marriage?

I was with a man who was all of those things and let me tell you-- they DO NOT change! Once an abuser always an abuser. My ex was wonderful in the beginning and I fell for him hard, deeply. Then the jealously and violence started... he would do those exact same things you described including the apology afterwards and I can't even count the number of times that happened. Oh and he was a "religious" man too would even go read his bible after choking me & beating me. You will know when you are ready to walk away. I dealt with the abuse for two years before I was ready to leave and not look backwards. Make him go to counseling if you really love this man and want to try to make it work to see if that helps. I tried that with my ex but the abuse continued. You have to go with your gut hun dont let this man continue to treat you that way. I have a really hard time trusting men now and am still rebuilding my self-esteem almost two years later. I hope I have helped in some way.

He can swear all he wants but he has anger issues that won't stop unless he gets counseling. Christian or not, I wouldn't put up with it another minute. Abusers often are very apologetic and will promise, swear, etc. that it will never happen again, but 99% of the time it does.

My first husband put his hands on me once and that's all it took for me to walk away from a 12 year relationship. I value myself way to much to let someone abuse me.

If you want my advise, leave. There's men out there that will respect you, love you, and not abuse you.

Because abusive tendencies are usually gut reactions to things, it is nearly impossible for someone to change without replacing those instincts. Many, many people try and are frustrated that they do so much work on themselves and then revert to their old ways in the heat of the moment. For the same reason, the large majority of batterer counseling programs aren't effective.

The HEALS program is taught by Steve Stonsky, both by book and weekend retreat. It focuses heavily on creating new instinctual reactions to replace the old abusive ones. I would definitely look into this if you have any desire to stay with your husband. Good luck.

In my opinion, the past is the past and he seems to be trying to make an effort to turn around. I would accept that. There's almost always a difference between what we think we deserve out of people who caused trouble in our lives and what we actually deserve. If you pressure him for more and use the guilt bandwagon, it will only make it harder for his efforts to be sincere. He might even stop trying to turn around altogether if he feels that after he has done it you're going to hang his past over his head for him. Again, accept it, and if it's sincere, then focus on the present and future where your husband treats you better. :)

Well, think of it this way. God would want you to feel happy and safe. If you are fearful and feel that you are being abused, and you have the power to remove yourself from that pain, it is what would be best.

I personaly would say he's on his last chance. If he continues, leave him. He's not worth it.

Dont worry dear. Even I have faced same kind of problems with my marriage. During hard phase of my life even I tempted and called my x girl friend. Things gone very wierd and finally I found , in some situations rather than doing some thing its better dont do anything. Just be silent. Do not do anything to fix ofr not to fix. Keep it going. Do somr meditation and keep you engaged in praying. Find your peace of mind then every thing will follow back. Lets hope so.

Please get help. Your husband will not change without help. You need to protect yourself. Call 1-800-799-SAFE for confidential advise. Many abusers promise to change over and over again. They will be charming and loving in order ot win back you trust, only to hurt you again. Please get the help you need to make a good decision.

He is making an effort. But if he still goes back to his old ways after awhile then seek counseling. For both of you. If he still doesn't change leave him.

well honey..

honestly.. I dont think he's gonna change!

even if he wants to.. from the things that u said.. i can say u'd better end it.its for the best.

I think he will never change and if you stay, you will end up beaten.

get out now while you can.