WIll I become an abusive parent if I was abused as a child?

Absolutely has no bearing on what kind of a human being you turn out to me. You will decide that. It is all up to you.

this isn't any longer authentic. those who say that each and every surely one of the abused change into abusers are freakin' morons, for lack of a much better note. the fact is that sure, some do change into abusive because they alter into indignant; they don't realize there is yet in a distinct thanks to cope with their anger; they can't cope. You, on the different hand, sound as although you comprehend it changed into incorrect. you comprehend that there are different procedures to discern out issues really than lashing out in anger. for an excellent variety of abused, there is extra guilt association in case you do hit someone or you do lose your mood, yet when you're anxious about it, you may consistently talk with a counselor to study coping mechanisms or tricks to quiet down. people study from their environments - now and again they take the adverse and turn it right into a positive, now and again they don't. Hell, what number of people have come from solid properties and became into undesirable people? solid properties do not inevitably mean solid people. you ought to make the concious attempt to be a good man or woman. you'd be ok :)

That depends entirely on you. People take being abused completely differently than others. There are some kids who grow up angry and mentally disturbed because of child abuse, and as a result, they grow up being abusive themselves. Then there are other kids who grow up thinking "I don't want this to happen to my child" and they're not abusive. Just because you were abused obviously doesn't mean you are going to abuse your children, it is up to the individual. Everyone reacts differently to each situation. There are a few basic ground rules for being a good parent. 1) never abuse your children. discipline and abuse are on two completely different levels. 2) give your children obvious basic necessities AND MORE. IF YOU CAN 3) give your child love 4) don't be mean to your child. I don't see what's so hard to be a parent. NOW im not saying it's easy, i can see that waking up at 3 in the morning to change a diaper, juggling work, chores, and a new baby is obviously a lot of work. I'm saying being a good parent is not hard. 3/4 just require you to be a good person and love your child. the 2nd one is obviously more physical, as in sometimes parent aren't able to support their families. Like a father was cut from his job is homeless and has no money, He is physically unable to provide that doesn't make him a bad parent. If he is able to provide for his children but refuses to do so, that is when he is unfit to be a parent.

I come from an abusive home. I was there until I was 18 though. You did not live with your birth mother so the likelihood of you being abusive is slim.

I would also like to point out that just because you come from an abusive home doesn't mean that you will be abusive yourself. I, personally, think that it depends on what you observed and if you really decide to follow in those foot steps or not and in some cases what you decide to do with the anger that builds up from it. If you have a lot of anger built up inside of you it will come out on someone eventually. I think a lot of the time people end up taking their anger out on their children because they don't know how to deal with it, or ...when they become older they take it out on the abusers. Maybe some people take it out on everyone.

I never took my anger out on my children. I took it out on my mother one fateful night and ended up getting some counseling after it...which I should have done years before. My point is, the cycle doesn't always have to repeat, you have a choice to stop it.

I would say no, you will not become an abusive parent. You don't remember being abused so it didn't ruin your childhood or anything. That's horrible that you were abused at such a young age but since you're worried about becoming an abusive parent I think you'll be more aware of how to treat your child or how you're treating your child (:

in those cases its because the person has grown up not knowing that it's wrong and how to react in a non-abusive way, since you've grown up in a loving family with no actual memories of the abuse then I don't believe it would be a factor, that said though there's no sure way of telling if you'll be a good parent until you're already a parent!

if you are an abused child you need therapy as an adult. you and the therapist determine if you have healed enough to be a parent . i had years of therapy, became a therapist and never trusted myself to be around small children too long. the crying drives me nuts. once they are 3, i am fine for a very short time 3 days at most and it is stress full for me.

it is unlikely. most of the time when they talk about those who repeat the cycle of abuse they are referring to those who grew up in it and have never learned another way to be. it can be very hard for them to get past it let alone go beyond it. but of course not impossible.

good luck.

It depends on the individual. Some do turn out like their parents, while others do fine and have a wonderful life. I think you will be fine since you were so young.

Usually yes, but other factors could help stop that such as peer pressure.