Guy contacts me 4 months later ?

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Hi guys,

So I met this guy after a night out this must be about October. He was great and we talked for ages (neither of us was drunk by the way) and we exchanged numbers.
He didn't message.. until 2 weeks ago just asking how I was. I thought this was just a bit strange so asked why he had decided to message after all this time he replied saying that he had been through a lot of self reflection and 'wants to be a better man' and has 'many regrets'.

My question is whether his excuse seems feasible? Do I reply, if so what do I say? 
What I'm confused about it is that he could be telling the truth but on the other hand this could be a line and I could be just one of many girls. Surely you guys can understand the need for this question, I'm a little lost :P

Thanks for the advice
PSR xx

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

"wants to be a better man" ?! Hahaha if i were you i would keep the guy, cause this is one of the most pathetic lies for a 4 months long-disappearance :-D

This lad isn't exactly the definition of smartness OR he underestimates you totally.

If you have nothing better to do play the dumb chick and when he thinks he achieved his goal just disappear.
After 4 months call or text him "guess what, i really really feel a better woman now"

star · Answer

Given that he only just contacted you EVEN IF he says he's self reflecting is not really an excuse to not text even just once just so you'd know he's still interested or something, so I'm betting that it's a pick-up.

But if you still like him...dates with no expectations are fun :P be sure to be clear that it's a friendly date. Can't really go on immediately trusting the kind of guy who texts only after 4 months later and with the self-reflecting excuse. No dude who's genuinely interested would do that. Why risk you getting snatched away by another right? :D

good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

The same thing happened with my boyfriend, he met me and instantly added me on Facebook and we talked for a while and then he disappeared! Not four months but maybe one or two. His reason was he thought I didn't like him. If you like him you can cautiously and slowly start to date him but there isn't a reason to hold back.

Mushtaq A · Answer

Your b/f is no more interested in you. He has changed. He is just making you his flesh tool to play with. Such a situation is not favorable for your better and everlasting relationship. Good luck

Timothy Stephens · Answer

Time you coped better and decided for yourself rather than ask.
See him again and take it SLOW and see how things go.
If you are not happy with him then walk away and move on.

Hermes Trismegisto · Answer

Maybe he was in a relationship and now maybe he wants like a second dish.

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