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My daughter is not enjoying herself at college the first year.?
She is complaining of not like where she is at. She happens to be in Canada, and I know the weather there gets cold but that's not the concern with her. She doesn't like her roommate (very sloppy) and she is I think homesick to say the least. Now she s saying she wants to come to a school in the US, where colleges are much more expensive than they are there. She is very responsible and does all her work, it's that she doesn't like being there, although the city she is at is beautiful. What can i advise her? I was thinking maybe a work-study program here would be good for her and better for me as well in terms of affordability.
whoops--meant "not liking" in first sentence.
?, you have good points there about being independent, but she is somewhat independent at home. (she doesnt drive yet but she has her permit and is taking the written test this spring/summer). She takes care of her own stuff on her own--even cooking for herself, being a vegetarian.
Mary, she didnt want to stay in her own state, wanted to go out of it. We saw the schools that would suit her (she is an art history/photography) major around the north (New England) and they were super expensive to say the least, so when she chose this one I wsa all for it of course. However she now says she feels pressured to going there because it was less money (about 1/3 the price of schools here).
PS! Drip, this is more than just sloppiness. The girl did her first laundry in early November. She places the garbage can on the refrigerator they share (it's hers). And this is gross; she leaves unwrapped used pads in the garbage.
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- dripLv 77 years agoFavorite Answer
Part of college is learning to deal with other people. She needs to learn how to communicate and compromise with her room mate.
My daughter was not sloppy- but her room mate had OCD and would go nuts if my daughter's desk was messy. I told her the floor and common areas of the room must be kept neat. But if her bed, desk, dresser was a mess her room mate would just need to deal with it. It was not up to her to have her own desk cleared off and all the pencils in a row. But it was up to her to make sure her stuff was off the floor and shared things, like the fridge were kept clean and neat.
RA can help freshman with room mate problems.
You don't say where you live. If you live in the US, look at public universities in your state for lower tuition rates.
Most freshman -no matter where home is- have homesick issues.
If she is gong to apply and transfer she needs to get going on it. She can apply, see if she gets accepted and what kind of financial aid package she gets before deciding not to go back in the fall to Canada
- Anonymous7 years ago
She could just be not mature enough to be on her own - some kids aren't, especially if they haven't been all that independent before college. I'd suggest she stick it out though. Giving in to general homesickness is a great way to have to take care of her forever. I know graduates who still live at home because they're unable to live by themselves and live an independent life. After some time that becomes a bit pathetic.
- ChucklesLv 77 years ago
Her state university would be lower in cost. Consider having her transfer there. Canadian degrees are fine but in the job market, one from her state university will be just as good.
As for a roommate, the semester is half over and in 8 weeks she will not ever have to see that person again.
- MaryLv 77 years ago
If she is homesick, why would she want to go somewhere other than home and go to a local college/uni
