Would you donate, ignore it, or boycott it?

3. I would still attend, but I would never, ever donate money to fund a 4 hour party for someone else. I was able to plan a great wedding on a tiny budget without getting help, so I'm pretty sure other people are perfectly capable of the same. The sense of entitlement people have surrounding weddings is positively dumbfounding.

3

Probably 3.

Quite honestly, I hate to sound prejudiced, but this seems to be a growing trend among the younger set. They seem to feel entitled to anything and everything they want. Perhaps television and The Internet have told them they deserve it, and guests should feel privileged to attend.

Look on Go Fund Me, and you'll find a whole section of wedding fund raisers. Many people in Canada actually have Stag and Doe parties and charge people to raise money for their weddings. These things become common, and so people see them and think they're "o.k." They absolutely aren't.

P.S.- I would be extremely tempted to send them an etiquette book as their wedding gift, but I'd probably just send a picture frame or something. I'm sure this couple have a cash registry.

I thought that this could not possibly be true, that someone would send their wedding guests emails asking for money to pay for the wedding. But I did go to the Gofundme web site as mentioned above. Totally unbelievable. One couple was asking for money because he was an orphan. Another said that the bride and groom are starving artists. Yes, I would boycott the wedding. This is so crass.

Go for 3. Hate to be that way, but really and truly there are ways to have a wedding without spending so much money. Asking for donations so you can have an extravagant wedding is just selfish...

Highly inappropriate to ask anyone to donate to your wedding budget....I would take the high road and ignore it....if this person was a 'good' friend I'd get her alone and tell her it's inappropriate to ask others to help fund her wedding so be prepared for negative reactions. I would pick # 3.

3. My spouse and I would snicker amongst ourselves but we would still attend if we had originally planned to.

They might receive a non-returnable wedding gift though. You know, something like original art or something engraved or otherwise personalized.

I'd go with number 3 and hope everyone else does the same. Guests do not pay for the wedding in any way.

I'd go with number 3 and give them an etiquette book as a gift.

If it were just an option on the registry, or a single "Hey, did you know this is an option?" message, I'd ignore it. Multiple solicitations? I'd send my regrets and ask them to take me off the mailing list.