Being treated unfairly at home?

google: middle child syndrome and learn all about your situation.

I'm a middle child and have felt ignored and bad for most of my life but now I know just how it all happened and all about the very bad and inadequate parenting that set it all up. I had a deep reverence for my parents, especially mom for year but, thanks to psychology, I now fully understand how and why our parents FAILED all of us and created the lousy sibling relationships we all endured as kids.

Here's what happened to us.

My parents were thrilled to have my older brother and they were still "in love" at that time. Then I arrived about a year later when their marriage was beginning to fall apart. They were deeply disappointed that I was a BOY and not the girl they wanted plus they already had a BOY so didn't need or want another one so soon. In addition to their disappointment, they FAILED to help my older brother happily accept me so he hated my guts and punished me as much as he could for invading his perfect world and ruining everything so I was UNWANTED right from the start. Then 4 years later, our little sister arrived and our parents were THRILLED to the stars to have the GIRL they always wanted so they showered her with love and attention, like they had done with my older brother in the beginning but I was NEVER showered with love, attention or respect that I recall. Us boys were not taught to lovingly accept our sister so we mistreated her a lot but at least she and my older brother got more respect, love and attention from our very inadequate parents than I ever did and, since our dad was so very mean, I was happy to get little or no attention from him at all. I grew up sad, lonely, often dreamed of committing suicide as a child and had to enter psychotherapy in my late 40s to deal with my mental/emotional issues that were mostly put there by BAD PARENTING! There is a lot more to this story so, read up on the Middle Child Syndrome to help you understand what has happened to you and perhaps how to undo the early trauma and damages by extremely bad parenting most of all. If our parents had been mentally OK and adequate, none of this would have happened and I would have had a happy childhood and life BUT I'm OK now!!!!!!

Re: another post:

Yes, you may be getting mistreated compared to your brothers, but is it really that bad?

>>> Generally, anyone courageous enough to tell the truth about rotten parenting will be ATTACKED by ignorant or frightened others who are just too intimidated to speak the truth them self.

I was lucky to get food growing up with my dad who was an alcoholic and spent his money on booze, not food. Always people more worse off. Appreciate what you have.

>> It always amuses me how people will say or do anything to protect or excuse BAD PARENTING while dissing and attacking anyone strong enough to tell the truth about bad parenting. There may be others who are “worse off” but that does not mean that bad parenting should be ignored or excused with silly clichés like: "Appreciate what you have." which really means DON’T openly speak out about ROTTEN PARENTING. I’d say appreciate what you have and also TELL THE TRUTH about lousy parenting.

Yes, you may be getting mistreated compared to your brothers, but is it really that bad? I was lucky to get food growing up with my dad who was an alcoholic and spent his money on booze, not food. Always people more worse off. Appreciate what you have.