My brother is giving me a very hard time...?

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My brother is giving me a very hard time because I would not let him visit my mother who is 97 years old. My mother is very fragile although doing well now. But my brother has been sick and his wife has been very sick. I do not want my mother to get sick from being around my brother. Now my brother is calling the police and telling them I am abusing my mother. They came and investigated and interviewed me and my mother and found no abuse or neglect. Now my brother has called my mother's lawyer and told her I was abusing my mother. I take very good care of my mother and she has friends of hers from church that come and visit her. My brother's wife has been very ill and I don't want my mother to get sick from being around them. My brother is lying to everyone he knows telling them I am abusing my mother. He has called the police five times. Each time they have come and found no problems. But it is very stressful.

Update:

My brother and his wife live in Missouri. He showed up here, unannounced, on February 7th. He put an angry, threatening letter on the screen door. He threatened to call the police if I did not let him in within 2 minutes. He called the police and they told him he had to leave. He left. I sent him a text message an hour later and said if he wanted to call my mother and talk to her on the phone, that was fine. No response. 18 days later, I get a nasty, profanity-laced letter from him.

Sur La Mer · Accepted Answer

Been through that same order 7-8 years ago with my sister, except my mother came to her senses and made me POA, while my sister came to our house to start trouble.  The hospice came to intervene, giving each of us 5 mins. to talk, everything we wanted to say, in front of each other & the hospice.  (Aging & Disability also found my sister was the enemy). The 1st thing mom said to my sister, was that she was lying.

In the end, my sister took me to court, as soon as my mom was buried, and she wants HALF of my inheritance, even though she stole mom's bank account & closed it, while she was still alive.  I have voicemail my sister to prove she's been conning my mom, and her confession, but because of an allegation (like your brother is accusing you of), it would take years to settle in court, instead I gave her what she wanted, to get her off my back, FOREVER.  Peace is what we needed, and for her to get off my back, and it was well worth it!  Mom died with a smile on her face, because I was the bigger person!  Sis, will get her 'reward' in the end. She's very evil!

You need to get yourself a lawyer, and get advice from him. I have a feeling, this is not going away any time soon, since I have some clue where it is going!

Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

Well, for one, your brother should not be saying you abuse your mother. It sounds like you love her dearly. But also, you should let him visit her!! He may be sick but your mother is 97 years old.. Sorry if this is disrespectful but does it matter if she gets sick? Unless she is really active she probably won't live much longer, and I'm sorry about that. But tell your brother to man up 😂

Elaine M · Answer

Next time he does this with the police file a harassment charge with them against your brother.

He can phone your mom, he can wear a breathing mask, he can Skype.

Anonymous · Answer

you are very right to be protective of your mother, i know how much you love your mother, i think you should contact the police and explain everything that is happening from your point of view, i wish you the best.

csigsrfan · Answer

I would tell him that until him and his wife is better that you would not like them to be around. That your mother health is very important to you

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