Why do girls act like youve done something bad to them if you tell them you like them?

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Ivd been friends with this girl for a year. We first met at a 10k where i came up to her and hit on her after the race. She had a boyfriend so we just became friends. Now a year later i confess to her that i think she is beautiful and that i respect her and admire her for who she is and i called her sexy. She gets all shitty with me like ive done something wrong to her and she tells me she does not appreciate it. If someone thinks you are an attractive and valuable person what is there to be mad about? All i did was compliment her and tell her how awesome she is and she acts like i was being disrespectful. Why do girls think its bad if a guy finds you attractive? Shouldn't that make you feel good about yourself? Why would a girl feel threatened by a man who values her?

Bfly · Answer

I'm a girl and this has happened to me before. I didnt appreciate it either because we are emotional beings and telling a girl how much you like/want/adore her when she has a bf only makes us feel conflicted. If she likes u that way then her emotions are all over the place. By telling her u have opened her up to a dilemma she now has to face like if she possibly likes u too but can't act on it. If she doesn't like u that way then she was happy how things were and feels u have ruined the way she once viewed ur friendship by stepping out of the friend zone and testing the waters. Either way its out there now and whether she chooses to confront it or not, u will know how she feels about it by her actions. She'll either:
 1. Stop talking to u if she really isn't comfortable with it.
2. Talk to u about it and come to a conclusion.
3. Tell u she feels the same and leave her bf.

Anonymous · Answer

Beauty is perishable. Neither here or there. Meaningless.

So in effect what you are saying is, had she been ugly, you would not respect her, or find her sexy,

Admire her for who she is? What exactly does that mean?

You start of as platonic mates, but now her beauty has made you abandon your former values?

Or maybe she simply isn't into you as a prospective date.
Maybe she feels betrayed, by you her "friend".

Not all relationships translate from.best friends into lovers.

If the positions were reversed, you had a girlfriend, and another girl had the hots for you, only based on your physical attributes, would you be agog to get it on?

? · Answer

Girls are very hard to understanding of them like mind games. I have never been like that

☺ · Answer

i think she might not find you sexually attractive

Shadow Killer · Answer

If she still has a boyfriend, then you did something very, very bad. I mean, you're flirting with her even with the knowledge that she's taken!
If she doesn't, then she's overreacting.
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Paulh · Answer

Maybe because she feel you were objectifying her and treating her like a slab of steak based on her looks and appearance. I wasnt there but im guessing she thinks you just like her for her looks and nothing else.

saige · Answer

you called her SEXY thats the problem. gee i dont know, try beautiful next time

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