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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 4 years ago

Why does she still follow me on snapchat? Should i ever contact her again?

So I was talking to this girl this past month on Snapchat, and texting. We finally met up last Saturday at her place. That saturday night was the first time we met in person. We were just watching movies and we talked. I don't know what it was but we just vibed with each other. Her room was just lit with candles too so it was a chill setting also. Shortly after, it just happened between us having sex. so we went two rounds, and she was saying things like, "your so big (my name)", dropped the f word many times, right there, etc. the first round she was cuffing up with me real tight kissing on my shoulder and neck right after. Shorty after she got on top of me saying she wanted it again, being really seductive with me so that's what led to the second round. We cuddled some more and kissed for a bit and that was it. After that I had to go, but I was just messing with saying, "you don't want me to leave huh?" And she shook her head with a smile saying no pretty much. It's obvious we feel each other, but here's the dilemma. She's going thru so much at home with her parents and she had broken up with her ex a month prior talking to me. They have no contact what so ever but he did her so wrong in so many ways

dissapears. She told me it's complicated to talk to her. so we texted the night after we had sex cause she asked me what I'm looking for in a girl that night we had sex. I couldn't answer it so I answered for her and told her I wanted her.

Update:

She said this, She said this , "(My name), this message just broke my heart. 😔 This was honestly the sweetest thing that I have ever read, and I want to be that girl for you so badly - I'm just not in a good place right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong; you're perfect" I just felt like I rushed things but apparently I did not, but I'm really feeling her and don't want to leave her, I wanted to stick it out.

Update 2:

So I told her how I felt about her foreal. And on a weekend this past moth she told me she would text me after but never did. on a weekday (monday) she snapped me saying (my name), I need to breathe. I'm sorry. I'll text you later. Now I feel terrible inside l, like it's over now. I wasn't harrassing her or anything I just asked if we could talk that's it. Idk man **** sucks 😞But the thing is she still follows me on snapchat?

Update 3:

She sees my stories and I see hers, but i don't want to overdue it by messaging her. I mean idk, its weird to me cause she said she likes me being around and talking to me but were not compatible at all. But in the beginning she's telling oh i want to see you real badly, we had sex and she didn't me to leave her house afterwords, she says perfect, and wants to be my dream girl but can't cause she's got a lot of stuff going on.

Update 4:

So im curious as to why she still has me on snapchat and stuff, yet she turns me down. last time I talked to her was a month ago a week before halloween, should I contact her at all?

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  • 4 years ago

    Hey it's the girl that you helped out on my "how to give a cute guy my snapchat" I wanted to say thank you! And well the reason that she still has you on snapchat is because she definitely still likes you and she is just going through a lot right now, I think that in time she will be ready for a relationship, so don't lose hope! Hope this helps! ;) Also I would snapchat her a "hey" sometime and see what goes from there.

  • 4 years ago

    What is seems like you described a girl with a broken heart and you are the person that makes her feel better but she is still having feelings for her ex. She knows what kind of guy you are and she is probably scared but then what it seems like she is just looking for you so she wont feel bad about what her situation is. If it bothers you having her on snapchat then delete her, if not then do not contact her. If she tries to reach out for you then let her no seriously what you are looking for and if she doesn't want that then her lost.

  • 4 years ago

    She still likes you and cares for you, but is not ready for a commitment at this time, due to the issues with past boyfriend.

    If you really like her, wait! Nothing wrong in that. Encourage and support her. Hit her up later on Snapchat and say hi. But take your time.

    Let her know you are there if she needs you.

    Continue to live your life and move forward.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

    wow sounds a lot like me. Not literally but sounds like something I would do/have done. This guy broke my heart a little while back & it took me SO long to get over it.. I'm still not fully over it but I know that it changed the way I perceive people and situations and that I will never trust a guy the way I once did. I no longer know whether to believe a guy that shows interest because guys and girls both are liars and sometimes just like the attention. Anyways I honestly do not think she wants you rn which sucks and I really do feel for you but considering I can relate to her I've sometimes kept guys that I know are interested in me around just for an ego boost as ****** up as it sounds it's the truth. People like the attention. & Even more when you're dealing with a breakup/ heart break. You're not ready to trust a guy again but you want guys giving you attention to fulfil your feeling of being worthy still. It sucks but I'd just give her time. I think she's just confused. Goodluck

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  • 4 years ago

    It sounds like a lot is going on with her. I wouldn't text her. It sounds like she is hurt quite badly and knows that you are a nice guy. I think she doesn't want to hurt or take advantage of you. Just give her time, if she wants you, she'll come around. She even said that she has a lot going on and will text you later. I would respect this space and let her come to do. If a week or so goes by and you really want to text her, send a text. But don't say "how are you" or "what's up?" Maybe say "hope you're doing well, I know you're going through some things, but just know that if you need anything, you can talk to me" or something. Whatever you're comfortable with. It just sounds like she needs to figure some stuff out

  • 4 years ago

    Maybe she wants to see your commited because the guy she was with made her feel insecure and like there was something wrong with her. I think you should contact her and show her your persistent and even if you find a flaw in her you won't do what that other guy did to her. Someone's going to be the guy that builds that trust back up in her and if you truely like her than you'll make sure your that guy. Sometimes you have to do a little more emotionally for a girl that's been through a tough relationship.

  • 4 years ago

    Hi thank you for your helping me on 'falling asleep on the phone to my boyfriend am I bad girlfriend' I think she knows she has hurt you but maybe she can't pluck up the courage to say something to you because you two haven't talked in a month but also she might just need some time to think about things not in a bad way but she might not want to hurt you more, I wouldn't worry too much, stick it out and prove that you won't leave like her ex snap her sometime with 'hello how are you?' and see where things go. All the best

  • 4 years ago

    Hey! you helped me with 'I had sex with a guy and haven't spoken to him since. How do I pluck up the courage to talk to him. What should I say?' so thanks a million. I know you'll hate to hear this but only time will tell. obviously I don't know how serious her family issue is but i would take her word for it and give her space, it could be worse than you think. Leave it a few weeks maybe and if she hasnt replied just drop a 'hey, how are you?' and see where it goes from there. But don't graft too hard. If its meant to be everything will naturally fall in place. Never keep trying to offer a hand to someone who doesnt want it. Just remember, you're beautiful and you will find someone who is willing to fight for you just as much as you are willing to fight for them.

  • 4 years ago

    Hi! It's the girl from the "Are short girls cute question". Personally, I think she still likes you, but her life is just really complicated right now. Maybe let it rest for a few days, and in like a week or so, send her a snap and just say "Hey" and see what happens. Don't lose hope, and I'm sorry everything is so confusing for you at the moment.

  • 4 years ago

    Definitely text her. I think it would be nice if you could talk to her on how she feels. Regarding her break up and home life, then try to move on to if you guys could in the near future go have some fun. Try taking her out to some thing nice, and open doors for her. Being romantic will help her trust you and she'll see why you're worth it! Good luck :)

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