Separation and bills?

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My boyfriend sold his house and moved in with me with two daughters. There were lots of problems (two daughters from two different moms, one who had committed suicide and the second who would claim she would take her life every other day)...anyway, after 1 and half year and 5 months of co-habitation, we finally managed to separate. Since he moved in, because there were three extra people in the house, all my bills have doubled. I believe that he should pay for the difference between what my bills were and what my bills are now, up until the bills have gone down. I don't want any money from him for anything - he hasn't shared the mortgage or anything; and we recently decided to repaint the whole house and obviously now that will fall on me only, which is fine (the house is my property). However, I think that it would be fair if he continued to pay the difference between what I paid before (say, I paid 50 pound in electricity and since he moved in the bill went up to 100) and what I am going to pay for the next few months, until the bills get down (there is a reading every 6 months or every year so I will have to continue to pay the higher bills for several months). He thinks he should only pay for the 5 months he has lived in the house formally with me. I think this is wrong. Any advice please?

Lone Cat · Accepted Answer

Where I live, you can always call them and have them do a meter reading.

You could also simply pay the lower amount.  The bill will get higher, but because your actually using less, when they read the meter it will even out and your bill will be reduced.

I also bet if you called the utility company, they probably have another way to fix this.

PETER M · Answer

You don't need advice from anyone.  You need to tell him exactly what you expect and want from him and not negotiate with him because you are the owner of the house and you are the one in charge.  You also have the power to kick him out and it may be wise for you to do so as he appears to be a freeloader with benefits of a sexual nature.

Gary B · Answer

You are morally correct, but since this was a simple "live in" arrangement, and apparently with no WRITTEN "renters agreement", you haev no LEGAL recourse.

Had you been MARRIED, this would have been different, or if you would have made a WRITTEN AGREEMENT about living together, but as it sets you are allowed to let anyone live with you that you want, but YOU BEAR ALL RESPONSIBILITY.

In short, the person whose name is on the accounts is responsible to pay the bills -- and that means YOU.

Robt · Answer

Time for u to grow up and get a better "boy" friend.
Simple.
Nothing says uninformed uneducated clueless as taking others trash as ur own.😬

David S · Answer

He's right. He should only pay bills for the five months he has actually lived in the house with you. But you should have decided these things BEFORE he moved in. If there's a next time, I hope you'll specify issues like this in advance.

Anonymous · Answer

If he agrees, that's fine. He is in no way obligated to pay or help you out though.

justa · Answer

Charge him rent and make him buy his own food.  I can understand why he keeps on hooking up with wives who think about suicide.  He's bound to get worse with time.  
He sounds like a leech.

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