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What advice should I give my son's adult stepbrother that won't work or go to school?

My son has a adult step brother that was living with his other brother on and off for several years. He was homeless and the other brother took him in and helped him get a job. Once the adult step brother found another place to stay, he vanishes into thin air. No calls, no reason why he left, nothing. Unfortunately, every time things didn't work living somewhere else, the adult stepbrother pops back into the other brothers life and gives him a sob story and the other brother takes him back under his wing. Well, last week the other brother refused to let him back in after ANOTHER disappearing act he did 2 months ago.

Now the adult step brother trying to call me for help, but I refused to answer. I texted him and told him to get in contact with his dad ( My sons Father) and ask if him and his stepmom could help. I told him I can't have him living at my home. My son says he never calls him or talks to him. He never calls me either, until the other day for the first time. I also gave the adult step brother info to shelters that will help him transition to work and residence of his own. Am I being wrong for not letting him stay with me ?

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  • Anonymous
    11 months ago

    It doesn't sound like you're wrong.  It sounds like you're smart!

    He can't live with you is all the advice that you need to give him.

    I had a friend like this decades ago.  He called me in the middle of a blizzard or the middle of the night when he had car problems and needed help, but the rest of the time I could never get ahold of him.

    So I stopped accepting his calls.

  • Archer
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    If he chooses to allow the step brother to live with him that is his choice.

  • 2 years ago

    i dont think youre wrong since he wont do nothing to help himself

  • 2 years ago

    I think you are doing the correct thing.

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  • 2 years ago

    "The worst vice is ADvice"!

  • 2 years ago

    No. You don't want that example of dependence any where near your son. Let the adult guy sort it out with his natural parents, and stay out of the conversation. You're not involved, and it could get nasty.

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