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How to not let an overbearing boss bother you?
I asked a question about what to say to an overbearing control freak boss (just FYI there are 4 others on the team that all feel this way about him).
I won’t state what I feel he does wrong as the answers to the last question basically told me I was probably a slacker drama queen....
Anyway I guess there’s nothing I can do to stop him being how he is but for some reason the way he speaks to me and the amount of work he expects from me (I am supposed to with 9-5.30 but have often worked till 9pm or after because of his requests, no overtime pay) really gets to me. He can be really blunt but from what I and others can see is for no reason, in meetings he will often disagree with what we say then twist our points to his own words and say them. My co-workers will often send eye roll emojis when he does this so I know it’s not just me. Anyway, other than telling me to not be a drama queen and talking to me like I’m a piece of crap who doesn’t deserve a job (charming) does anyone have any advice on how to put things into perspective for myself and not let it bother me so much?
Thanks in advance
1 Answer
- Hope!Lv 76 months ago
I haven't seen your other posts, and based on what you say in this one, I don't think you are a drama queen. :-)
I have a friend who works in the same sort of environment. The boss is just exactly how you describe. My friend has been there 4 years, and is the longest lasting employee - most leave within one year.. they can't handle the constant put-downs, and as you say 'bluntness' and patronizing. They leave.
So, my advice: LEARN how to not take things personally.. there are tons of how-to videos on this. Google 'how to not take things personally'.
Practice what you learn.. see how things go, and then reassess - if things don't get better, you may be happier by finding another job.. but ultimately, it is a good skill to know, because we run into difficult people all the time..
I would say to do YOUR best, and not try and live up to your bosses impossible expectations.. firefighters etc.. have a debriefing session after a fire, and they talk about their stress level etc.. you need to have your own debriefing session after work, alone, or possibly with your co-workers, find a way to de-stress..