P-nuts and Hair-dos

Don't reply if you are going to say, Take him to the vet,or Shoot him.

I am in weekly contact with my vet. She agrees that keeping him at home, painless and happy, is best. He will have a slow decline regardless, and we both agree that his being at home is happier for him than locked in a cage at the vet clinic.

He has feline leukemia (much like AIDS in humans). He is currently in no pain, but just very listless. If I feel he is starting to really suffer, I want him to pass as comfortably as possible, without the fear of the vet clinic, and just sitting in my lap as I pet him and talk to him.

He has been hospitalised twice and was extremely sad - he wouldn't eat or drink, and they had to forcefully give him his meds. I am North American, but live in a buddhist country where most vets will not euathanise, plus, taking my little guy to the vet is always full of stress and fear. Those are not the last emotions I want him to have.

Again, the "take him to the vet" option is not acceptable. The last cat I had was old and had cancer, and I took her to the vet to be medically euthanised when her quality of life was so poor, and it was horrible for her, and for me. Where I live, the vets give "whatever"....in my last cat's case, the vets gave dog meds, which caused her great discomfort in her last moments, and I was (and still kind of am....) a mess about it, especially b/c the vet's assistant wasn't there and he made me help. They either won't do it, or if they will, they just inject any old lethal drug without regard to suffering. The death I witnessed lasted several minutes and appeared to be extremely stressful for the poor cat.

I have access to Valium. I know it is prescribed in small doses to cats for a variety of reasons. I guess what I am asking is, has anyone painlessly, calmly euthanised their cat with a standard human dose (10 mg).

Because I am in weekly contact with the vet, I keep giving the cat all of his prescribed medications, which he takes comfortably from me, but they seem to have no effect. He eats, drinks, uses the litter box, vomits once a day, and sleeps about 23 hours a day.

He is still in no pain or too much suffering (he just cannot play). I just want a comfortable option for him if he seems to start suffering. Carrier + car + vet = extreme fear for him.

Picture yourself walking to lethal injection. You don't want to put your friend through that, especially since he committed no crime and was just born with an illness.

And picture your friend not being given the most humane lethal injection,

but just so much cocaine that they freak out and then have a painful heart attack.

I am a responsible pet owner. I have paid for the best veterinary care for my cat since I rescued him as a 6 week old kitten.

I am not worried about the cost of veterinary euthanasia, but rather the haphazard way it is done in this country. They are very respectful of the body once dead, but not so careful with the actual death.

I want to help him pass easily, when the time comes, with him feeling calm and loved.

Has anyone had a good outcome with Valium?

Again, I will give him all the chances in the world. I just want to make sure his final hour is not stressful or painful for my little sweet cat.

I have looked some things up, but they are either very complicated and frightening for the cat, or just "shoot it", which is not an option.

I understand this is a complicated question, and I appreciate all thoughtful and caring responses.

If you want to be a jerk, please answer someone's STD questions instead.

Thank you.

I have 2 1-year old sibling cats, both fixed. They like play time and rest time, like most cats. I am about to buy them a 6-ft tall cat "tree" with cubby holes and rest pads. I am wondering whether to place it near a balcony window, so they can see outside more, or in a more "chill" place. Looking for advice from others who have similar structures for their cat(s), and where the preferred spots seem to be.

They are strictly indoor cats. I live in Bangkok; if they went outside they'd be squished in 15 minutes. They like to look at birds. There are no other pets in the house, and they groom and love each other. The purpose of the "tree" is for stimulation, not to get away from anything, The vigorously play daily.

You may or may not be pregnant. It depends on the circumstances. Have you taken a home pregnancy test? If not, do so, but only when your period is late. Otherwise false negatives may happen.

Yes, it is safe and fine to use tampons. Follow the directions in the box. It is NOT losing your virginity. Only sex is losing your virginity. Tampons are cleaner and more convenient than pads in the vast majority of cases. Deal with it.

Yes, it is normal to have one boob bigger than the other.

Yes, it is normal for your breasts or nipples to hurt throughout puberty. You don't have cancer.

Yes, it is normal to get stretch marks in puberty.

No, you should not try to lose weight, unless you put your data into a BMI calculator and it says you are obese or overweight. Most of you asking about weight loss have, or will have, eating disorders.

Yes, you can tell your mom you got ypur fricken period.

Yes, you can shave your legs. PROPERLY.

No, you cannot get 8 STDS from a ********.

Read, learn, and become an interesting person who isn't only concerned about superficial appearance. As an adult woman, I can even say it's hard not to think about/worry about being judged about your appearance, but it's not what make you, you. And if it IS, then you are bound for unhappiness.

Don't end your questions with "LOL". Just makes us all think you are way-stupid.

Yes, your penis size is normal. If you are under 18, it may grow more. About 6 inches in length, erect, is average.

No, there is nothing you can to to increase your height. It is genetically pre-determined. All you can do is maximize your genetic potential by eating nutritiously and sleeping 8-9 hours per night (you only grow in your sleep)

Yes, you can help your acne. Go to the doctor and ask about doxycycline. Works wonders.

Yes, you are too young to have sex. If you aren't mature enough to go to the drugstore on your own and buy condoms and not be a total goof about it, you are not mature enough for sex.

Yes, someday a girl (or boy, if you're made that way) will like you. In the meantime, practice excellent hygiene read a lot and try new things so you are interesting to others.

I have depression that has it's ups and downs. This Christmas I am completely alone. No family, no friends. I've been really sad for a couple of months, and now it just seems worse. I am taking my medication, but I still have crying jags and just feel so lost and empty and have no motivation to do anything. I guess my question is, Do I write to a friend or two anyway even though it's Dec. 24th, or should I wait a couple of days? I'm not suicidal, btw. I feel so sad I don't want to live, but I know I will not try to kill myself.

I was married for 18 years, have a 20 year old son. Am 41 now. My ex-husband had the stereotypical midlife crisis, left me, then 2 months later, was like, "Oh crap - I effed upped." Since we were in different countries, we had lots of e-mail communication, then a trial reunification, in which he broke all the ground rules that were set. He left again. When I felt ready to date, I went on about 3-4 dates, just coffee or a drink or a movie - nothing serious or physical. One guy, became friends with, and we met several times for activities, but there was no spark, so we never did anything, not even holding hands or a kiss. And I was fine with that. Shortly after him, I met someone I was wildly attracted to. We were compatible in so many ways, and we were together two years. He helped me through the death of my mother, trying new things (like adventure racing) and we just loved every day together. Now, he's gone back to live in the UK. If he didn't have to move for his business, we'd still be together. It just hurts so much. Not just that we broke up, but that I feel I'm past the age when men really look/care/feel about a woman. Part of me is like, "Ef it, there's more to life that that", but I also know how lovely a relationship can be. I have excellent friends, I do volunteer work, I get counseling, I exercise. Doing all the right things, but still feel so very sad in my core, and don't want to give up on love, even though I know it's not the be all and end all.

My exes and my friends say I am caring, loving, giving, considerate, attractive, make a very good income, I'm a great cook - I'm a very good catch. So why doesn't anyone want to catch me and keep me?

I feel like I'm just dealing with things that have happened in the past 18 months.

1. Child leaving home for university

2. Husband leaving, mid-life crisis

3. Moving house

4. Having to get rid of my pet due to moving house

5. Not caring at all about work

6. Mother died 2 months ago

7. Husband wants me back

I've been crying off and on, mostly on, for 6 hours.

My eyes are almost swollen shut.

What can I do to stop crying, at least for a bit?

Human vomit. I was sick all afternoon, I cleaned the bathroom after each time I vomited, but there is still some smell.

I feel like I've scrubbed and bleached the heck out of everything.

You want to LOSE weight, you don't want to "loose" it. "Lose" means to get rid of something, or not be able to find something. "Loose" means that something got away. "Oh no! My dog got loose! How will I find him?"

Grammar and spelling matters.

Okay, been seeing a guy for 10 months. Started as casual sex, then we liked each other. Now we are like really good freinds, who have sex regularly. I put a "feeler" out a few weeks ago regarding feelings, and was told that he hangs out with me b/c he likes me, and effs me b/c he thinks I'm hot.

My ex wants me back, and it's real love. The f-buddy guy - I know he feels more than he lets on. But I'm just torn. I have someone who will take a bullet for me, and someone who says it's "casual", but know that it's more than that. Not really a question, I know. I guess I'm 90% sure I will break up with Mr. Casual, but not quite sure how to do it/feel about it. He's great in a lot of ways. But he will never be a one-woman guy. And I respect that.

I am speaking existentially and biologically. I have passed on my genes. There is obviously no "higher power". Genetics are "it", and I have procreated and raised a child successfully to adulthood and procreative age.

Is there really, truly any point to remaining alive? I hurt so badly (which I know is a side effect of achieveing one's biological imperative) but there is no point to it. All I do now is create a carbon footprint.

My husband and I have been separated almost 1 year - living in separate countries, even. The details of the split aren't that important - we both had midlife crises, we both neglected the marriage.

Anyway, he has changed a lot, and REALLY wants to get back together. I genuinely feel that he loves me to an extreme degree. But the problem is, I honestly don't know how I feel. Sometimes, often times, I miss our relationship, our family (our child is grown, in uni) miss feeling a sense of purpose. But I am also kind of liking being single. We've been together since I was 17, married at 21. I'm now 40. I feel like if I could just make up my mind, then life could go on for me in one way or the other. I don't want to outright say, "Yes! Let's get back together!", and I also don't want to say "No" and completely close the door on what was essentially a pretty darn good marriage for 18 years. Anyone else been through this? I feel responsible for both of us. I just genuinely don't know what I want, and feel incapable of making decisions - which is not normal for me. Advice, anyone?

Every article I've ever read in a magazine says to let polish dry between coats when giving yourself a manicure or pedicure.

But when I get it done at the salon, they just put on the 2nd coat right after the 1st, and it still looks good.

Does it really matter? Does the acetone in the polish 'meld' the 2nd layer into the first, regardless of whether the 1st layer is dry?

Back in the day, I love all the Wolfenstein, Doom, and Hexen/Heretic stuff.

I'm a bit out of the loop (career and all...) but have a bit of free time, and wondering what is good now.

If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. No judgement. No religious crap. Just someone who has been through it, without much family support, and who knows that you just need someone to talk to, cry to, be understood by.

Is this normal? Am I in a pre-menopause thing? I size up every guy I see. The ones I think are hot, I can't stop fantasizing about. I flirt horribly. I'm married, but keep thinking about having flings (sex with husband is still fine, it's not like he's ignoring me, but I want other men too).

I've been feeling like this for about 8 months. It detracts from my work, from my other feelings, etc. I feel like some sort of addict. Anyone else ever go through this?

For my age, I look about 10 years younger and I am attractive. Men give me attention, and I go stupid over it.

I used to actually think about other things, care about other things. Now I feel like I'm obsessed, in a mid-life crisis or something. I'm so mental I give thought to quitting my job, taking my savings, and just travelling to pick up hot men. This is crazy, no??? Anyone go through this, and does it end?

I have an embarrassing question there---I regretted asking it as soon as I posted it. How can I go into my profile and delete it? Thanks.

Throwing a party--anyone have good suggestions that would be fun and/or funny for a Pimp and Ho party? Don't need gansta rap full of f-words and cop killas... :)

Religious beliefs aside---I've been married/together with the same person for almost 20 years. I am still young (36) and attractive, and find myself very attracted to someone and almost obsessing. I do not want a "relationship" with this person, other than the friendship we already have. I would just like to have sex/make-out sessions with him. I have only ever had 2 sexual partners in my whole life. I kind of feel like I missed out on a few things in my younger years, and so want to sow a few wild oats. Obviously, I don't want to hurt my husband, and don't want to completely end that relationship just so I can have-a-go with some other guy. Would appreciate feedback from people who've gone through/are going through similar feelings---not just people who will tell me I'm evil and wrong. Let's just assume that 5000 people already told me that I'm evil and wrong, and that all the religious platitudes (which I don't agree with) have already been flung at me. Other opinions?