Amber

Hey everyone! I’m 23 and a recent graduate, and was seeing this guy (he’s 22 and will be graduating May 2022 after his deployment) who’s in the air force for about 1 month (not too long I understand), but due to Covid/ working from home we honestly got to spend a lot more time together. I of course stayed busy living my own life, but definitely was able to go on 2-3 dates a week/ meets up/ with him frequent (we spent the night, no sex)... Long story short, he was the one to really want to meet my family (it was quick), and me to meet his. Hence, I literally had lunch and dinner with his family for the past 2 days, it was great aha. His mom + sisters even got me these great Christmas gifts + invited me to there holiday party while he would be on base for NYE.

Long story short, today after dinner w/ his family, we went back to our townhomes, in mine, to open the gifts we got each other and made out/ did oral (sorry for tmi) afterwards, I noticed something was feeling off, and he proceeds to tell me how he’s realized that we don’t argue, but “bicker” a lot and how that concerns him this early on + how he felt that me “helping to put his tag back under his shirt” is me trying to baby him, plus how I’m “perfect” and it’s his own issues he’s working through; he leaves for another round of training for 3 weeks soon + Saudi Arabia in 4 months, for 3 months.

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   Hey! So  in my apartment there are 2 other girls (3 of us total), and due to the pandemic the other 2 have left! However, I have stayed here. Nonetheless, the utility cost has went down ALOT, and I have called the respectable utility company (gas, water, electricity) for the base rates for my roommates to pay while they are gone. Nonetheless, the base rates are actually higher since I am not using much of the utilities since I am a real minimalist, and always out of the house.... 

The first month both roommates and I just split the bills by 3 since it was cheaper, but this month 1 roommates keeps saying it "doesn't make sense" for her to be paying utilities since she's not there. Therefore, I've told her NUMEROUS times to call me so we can discuss, yet she won't (like MANY many times in advance). Now, she waits until the DAY OF (of the bill being due) to say again how "this doesn't make sense", and only pays this SMALL fraction of the base rate/3 ( it's like $1-2 cheaper than us dividing by 3 + the base rates are for 1 person)... So I payed the $4 left on the account that is under my name and left the $7 on the account that is on her's (it will be LATE tmrw)... My question is, how can I manuever this? She is 27 (causing problems now) and I am 22, and my other roommate is 21...help?  The other roommate (who pays) and I will be moving units this July!