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i've known him for about a year now. when we just met, he showed a lot of interest in me. constantly texted me and flirted with me and made it seem like he wanted something more. but i had a bf then. recently we broke up and i started liking him. we been hooking up. it's always on his terms tho. he's always the one initiating the texts and asking me over. in school, he treats me like a regular friend and doesn't give me any special treatment. when we're alone, even in public, he'll put him arm around me or hand on my back.. sometimes he'll ask me to go eat with him and he always pays even when i offer. today he asked me to eat but after eating he asked me for a favor if i would go to costco with him cause i have a card and he doesn't. do you think he likes me or using me?

i like this guy in the class below me. and he admitted to me that he likes me too but "it's obviously not a good idea." i recently became single and he knows that and we've been hooking up since but it's always on his terms. he's struggling with some things so whenever he feels available he'll call me. but after he told me it wasnt a good idea, i decided maybe i should stop before i get too emotionally involved. and he calls me the next day to go to the movies late at night. there, he cuddled with me and almost treated me like a gf, very lovingly. we were also the only two people in the theatre so there was no one around that we knew to see us.

then... the next day, we both go to a mutual friends bbq.. separately ofcourse. and he acts like he doesnt know me. he talks to every other girl more than me (even though we're all sitting around a round table together). he ignores me when i talk to him.

im confused..... what is he doing?

i just broke up with my bf of 2 years. but now i'm regretting it. but part of me has a crush on this other guy in school who i think has no interest in me. what should i do? can i ask him if there's any chance?

my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years. lately, he's been talking a lot about being with me in the future and spending his life with me. we've also been joking around about putting all our future money into gold (people say gold worth 1600 now will be worth thousands in the future).

he's selling some of his furniture for thousands and he says he'll put that money into gold. i joke around and ask him if he'll let me hold onto it and put it in my sock drawer and i get really hurt and offended when he says no. when i ask him why, he says "because it'll be our money and i'll protect it. i have a right to be cautious with my money. what if i put all my money into gold and give it to you and then we break up and it's worth thousands?"

do i have a right to be upset or am i being unreasonable

i took the FIRST pill of a new birth control pill pack (28 pills total), and i forgot for a WHOLE WEEK (stupid i know). what should i do?

i'm going to be away from friday afternoon- tue at the latest.... i don't really have anyone to watch him.. is there anyway i can feed him or leave him enough food for the whole time?

my bf of 2 years is 1500 miles away. for like 1.5 years, when we are not together, we would have skype sessions that sometimes involved masturbating together. for a couple months, he was super into it and would request it quite often and wait for me to get home before he jerks off.

the last couple of months (like 3-4 months), he's been losing interest in it. he now prefers porn and his own privacy. when we are together, the sex is still amazing but it's just the time we're apart that we don't have these skype sessions anymore and i'm starting to feel insecure.

i asked him about it today and he said he's just been thinking it's a little weird to do skype like that. and that lately he's just been more in the mood for "him time" with good old porn and privacy and that it has nothing to do with me and our relationship.

should i be upset about this change in our long distance relationship or is it normal and fine?

my bf said if he didn't know me and saw me walking down the street... he would think "ok.. she's pretty."

but oftentimes he'd call random girls and actresses beautiful and hot and sexy..

is that bad that he only thinks i'm pretty and cute?

my bf and i have been long distance for almost 2 years now. last night, one of his friends wanted to go into the city (they live like 45 minutes away) because some girl he was interested in wanted him to come hang out and he wanted to hook up with her. so he asked my bf if he'd come with him and my bf said yes. they were gonna go and then crash at some other guy's house for the night.

they didn't end up going but this morning my bf told me that was the plan and i said... "if he was going to hook up with this girl..... what were YOU going to do?!?!?!"

and my bf said "i don't even think about it that way. i let life happen. if my buddy wants me to be his wingman, i don't say what am i going to do?! i say sure and let life happen."

in my head, i'm interpreting this as.... if a girl wanted to hook up with him.... he'd say yes?

what do you guys think

what do you guys think is the difference if a guy says one of these to his gf?

which one do you think is worse?

yesterday i was in a weird mood and my bf did something soooooo small and stupid and it pissed me off like none other. he's a lot older than me so when i tried to pick a fight with him about it, he wouldn't put up with it and told me he needed time and we needed a break. and we stopped talking for 24 hours.i ended up crying for a couple hours cause i didn't really know where we stood and i couldnt believe i tried to pick a fight on the stupidest thing ever.

this morning after 24 hrs, i finally gave up and called him and he said we were fine and that he wasn't mad anymore and he just wanted a little time to himself and go out and hang out with friends. we're 1500 miles apart but we skype all day everyday so he said he wanted time to himself.

i can't stop wondering.. if i didnt call this morning, how much longer of this break would he have wanted? i want to ask him but i feel like that'll just piss him off more and i should just let it go.

what do you guys think

like 10 years ago.... my bf took his then-gf of 3 years across the country to his sister's wedding. she was in the wedding party.

we've been dating for 2 years. i've never met his family yet. but his dad is getting married this summer and he's not taking me.

am i being stupid?

my friend just cheated on her bf and i told my bf about it. then i asked him "would you ever cheat on me" and he says "i don't think so" without any hesitation and pretty fast.

i kinda got upset and he said "it's the more realistic answer than no but i don't think i would"

how would you interpret the "i don't think so answer"

so my boyfriend of 2 years (long distance) took this girl on a date a couple months ago and i've known about it this whole time but he doesn't know that i know. i ended up deleting this girl's number out of his phone and they haven't talked since. yesterday, he gets a text from a random number asking for dental advice (he's going to be a dentist) and he showed me the text and said he had no idea who it was. while the phone was in my hand, he received another text saying "this is ____. we had a night in chicago back in oct." and he tried to take the phone out of my hand so fast. we had a long talk and even though he's still lying about a couple details from that night, he now knows i know most of the truth. so i delete her number again and he swears he loves me and nothing's ever going to happen with her.

so all night i'm paranoid and kept asking him "did she text you again..." and he kept saying no. then he puts a code onto his iPhone so i can't check ever again.

do you think he's hiding something and just trying to keep me from snooping and being suspicious all the time?

my long distance bf SAID he bought me something for valentines, but because he's going through a hard time with money, he said he'd bring it with him when he comes to see me in 2 weeks.

i'm on Skype with him. i kinda wanna see what he got for me. should i ask him to show me or should i just wait for 2 weeks (i kinda want him to prove to me that he actually got me something).

my bf and i were on Skype talking and he was watching a new tv show and loving it. then we talked for a little bit and his Skype got disconnected in the middle of the conversation. i texted him asking where he went and he said he would come back when his Skype worked again, but he never did.

i know for a fact he kept watching his show and didn't really notice i was gone and made no effort to come back on.

am i over reacting?

i caught my bf looking at some woman's profile pictures on fb. i asked him if she was pretty and he replies with "she's like 45 years old..." is that a yes or no? he's 38 and I'm 25

my bf and i are long distance. he gave me his fb password a long time ago.

today via Skype.. i caught him smiling from ear to ear and looking at some girl's fb profile pics.

so i read their conversation and it was some girl he knew from years back (he's moved far away since then). and she kept calling him "soooo cute and handsome". he wasn't really flirting back besides telling her she looks nice but he did say one thing... "you should have told me you thought i was cute.. we could have had some fun before i left!!"

am i overreacting? i know he'll never see her again in his life.. and that she's literally no body in his life.. am i overreacting about what he said?

i found unused condoms in my bf's room. they had 1/2012 and 2/2012 expiration dates.... when can i assume he bought them??

my bf and i are long distance. we're both busy but i try to find time to visit him once a month. but every time i fly out to see him, all he wants to do is hang out with his friends and invite them over for FIFA and band practice. the only day that he doesn't have anything planned with his friends, he just wants to study.

should i be upset? cause it's not like he doesn't include me when he's hanging out with his friends.. but at the same time, i fly 1500 miles to come see him..