Jayy

Ok so I'm 17, and graduating high school this year and I'm a little confused right now...

I always thought I was straight and the thought of being anything more than friends with another girl was sickening to me (I'm not against anything other than heterosexuality in the slightest, btw) I just couldn't imagine myself like that.

But now, I've been so conflicted in that now..I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a girl...

Only, I can only imagine cuddling, kissing, like simple stuff. The thought of Having sex with a girl is out of the question (at least right now)

Does not wanting to have sex with but being okay with a relationship make me bisexual? Or would I have to be willing to go further with her?

I'm all for girl on guy sex but not so comfortable with girl on girl...my attraction to guys is much bigger than to girls but if I found someone I really liked and she liked me...I would be okay being her girlfriend...

These thought have been nagging me the last week, but I'm so confused. I feel like people will say I'm not bisexual if I come out as one because I'm not willing to touch and have sex with another girl but am okay with all that with a guy...

Am I overthinking? I'm probably rushing this as well and should wait and experiment but I dunno...

Help?

Nothing rude or anything..thanks

-J

Ok so I'm 17, and graduating high school this year and I'm a little confused right now...

I always thought I was straight and the thought of being anything more than friends with another girl was sickening to me (I'm not against anything other than heterosexuality in the slightest, btw) I just couldn't imagine myself like that.

But now, I've been so conflicted in that now..I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with a girl...

Only, I can only imagine cuddling, kissing, like simple stuff. The thought of Having sex with a girl is out of the question (at least right now)

Does not wanting to have sex with but being okay with a relationship make me bisexual? Or would I have to be willing to go further with her?

I'm all for girl on guy sex but not so comfortable with girl on girl...my attraction to guys is much bigger than to girls but if I found someone I really liked and she liked me...I would be okay being her girlfriend...

These thought have been nagging me the last week, but I'm so confused. I feel like people will say I'm not bisexual if I come out as one because I'm not willing to touch and have sex with another girl but am okay with all that with a guy...

Am I overthinking? I'm probably rushing this as well and should wait and experiment but I dunno...

Help?

Nothing rude or anything..thanks

-J

Hi.

So I dog sat for this lady I babysit for usually. It was from April 8-10. I slept at their home (dogs get anxiety), fed them at 7:30 am. Walked them midday. And came back again at 7:30 for dinner. Have pills to the older dog as well.

I'm going in tomorrow to return their spare key, and in hoping she will pay me.

We never actually discussed payment, but she is pretty generous in her cash when I babysit and doesn't seem like the kind to forget to pay but I'm scared that because we never talked about money that she thinks I dog sat for her for free...I spent allot on gas getting myself there and back 3 times a day. And actually did quite allot of work.

How should I address this is she doesn't pay me tomorrow? How do I ask? What if she says she thought I was doing it for free?! What if she refuses to pay me?! Help please!!!!! I mean, she really doesn't seem like that kind if person...maybe I'm just paranoid but I need the money she owes me because I have my own pets to support and things for myself I need to buy among others. And I did her a service which is EXPECTED to be paid for.

Thanks guys!

So My friend Brianna and Ryan ganged up on me today. Brianna has been my friend since her freshmen year and my sophomore year. I just became "friends" with her friend Ryan. Today, they ditched me in target after we all went ice skating together for 2 hours. They kept hiding from me and when I found them, I was pissed off and I asked them, is that just hilarious to you? And they both laughed at me and said, yes! So I was kinda mad at that...later they apologized after I ignored them.

Later, they wanted to do truth or dare over the phone, so they called me in a 3 way call. I was watching TV, waiting for them to stop talking to each other. I didnt hear my name other than Bri explaining to Ryan that I didn't have Twitter, so then they got mad I didnt hear what they said. I was like, Oh sorry. And Brianna got mad at me saying I was ALWAYS watching tv. So they hung up on me.So I called them back but they declined it, saying I wouldnt pay attention. I said, they werent even talking about the game and they said they were and that they already gave me a dare but I wouldnt know because I wasnt listening. I told them it was because they didnt clarify they were starting.

So um, I was at a party, and I got peer pressured into drinking beer. Not allot. Like a few sips here and there. I faked drinking it so I didn't have too much. It was Jack Daniels mixed with coke. And, I didn't like the waste so I refrained from drinking it best I could. A little later I got a head ache so I went hope and I just woke up 10 minutes ago with a bad sore throat.

Could the beer be behind the sore throat? I'm wondering because I felt fine and all before I had the beer. And I don't wanna go to the doctors or tell my parents (don't judge guys, this happens to the best of us). Should I just treat it as normal and then see my doctor if it doesn't go away in like a week or something?

Or can beer not cause sore throats, I'm overreacting and probably am just getting sick. I drank out of my friends cup, but she didn't seem sick or anything.

Thanks guys. And again, no rude answers or judgmental comments please. We all have our first beer one time or another.

Thanks all.

My dad is sick of cleaning up sh*t and piss. Our elderly cat, Madeline (13) is getting out of hand. She rarely uses the litter box. Our living room smells awful and has stained paper towels all around the perimetre of surrounding furniture.

She's been doing this for a while now. She's almost always had a problem with this, but has recently gotten worse over the last 3 years. She shares the house with 3 other cats, but honestly gets along with most of them (exception of 1..). She's friendly and likes their company. One of them is her sister.

What can I do? I don't want to give her up but I also feel bad for my dad because he always cleans it up and we try to help but there's always so much and he's just tired of it. He doesn't necessarily want to get rid of her, he's just absolutely sickened by the amount of crap he has to clean everyday.

What could be causing this? What can I try to do to help her go in the litter box? She knows where it is and there's nothing wrong with her (except a little stupidity...) so I don't know what's behind it.maybe stress? She's moved a bunch with her sister and brother (RIP) and also has had 2 new, younger cats join the family.

Help! She wouldn't survive in a kennel/shelter and we've had her since kitten hood, she's family..I'll defend her as long as I can but my dad's the boss...

Any suggestions? Ideas? If worst comes to worst, how can we go about it? Shelter? The only one close is 10 miles away and isn't a no kill :(

Thanks guys...

So it started as a hang nail and I always make things worse. I pull it and I tear it right off the first layer of skin and it will bleed. I made it worse by picking at it with my teeth, tweezers and an x acto knife...and yesterday I pulled off a big layer of skin. It's 1.5 cm in length. It bled. Earlier it had a think layer of skin over it..until I pulled it off. I can't help myself! It's all bloody again now, stings and obviously hurts. But I don't really care, you know? I've done it so much I don't care about the pain.

My dad saw and I complained I wanted to see a doctor.

Is this self harm..? Or just a compulsive disorder. I will pick at my nails and skin when stressed (I've started school and have been really stressed..) or nervous. I don't want to tell my parents I did this on purpose :/ once it heals a bit I just know I'll pick at it again and it'll take a long time to heal. My cat bit me and I made it so much worse, it didn't heal for weeks bcuz I kept poking at it.

Should I keep asking to see the doctor or just will power through it? What should I tell y doctor because obviously he'll ask what happened...

Nothing rude plz.

Thanks,

J

My little sister is 12, and just entered 7th grade. I'm 16, just entered 12th grade. My sis has always had a problem with bullied to where my parents always say she somehow chooses the wrong people. It's mostly verbal abuse, as girls tend to do. We've moved allot and now were in California again.

She usually comes home from school telling me about her day. One of her main enemies - Samantha, likes to turn her friends against her and verbally put her down. She gets teased allot and excluded. I've told her many times to confront her friends about it because she knows they know but they say their afraid of S, which is understandable...sometimes Samantha does this outside of school, and now I don't let my sister be around her without me there. I told her to back off once and she did for a little. This will be the second time I've had to step in between a bully and my sister.

How involved can I get? The schools never do anything and parents...dunno, they have allot to deal with...my mom has Parkinson's..I'd rather I help my sister than get them involved :/ can I go to the principle? Will I end proof of bulling? Or should I just continue to give my sister advice and step in when I can?

Thanks guys!

J

My best friend of years has a new boyfriend. He's a freshmen and she's a Junior.

I'm visiting her in Boston for two weeks from California. And mostly she's been talking to him.

I understand she's in a relationship but I spend over $500 to come here. Im only here fr another week.

So far he's been coming along for everything; the movies, down time, Water Wizz, everything! This is supposed to be me and her time.

I don't mind when he comes over occastionally, they don't get to see each other THAT much, but I haven't seen her in a few years.

He's nice I guess but he always wants to kiss and makeout and stuff...and I;m always left out ad the third wheel...

I don't want him coming to Water Wizz because her other friends will be coming and I hardly know or remember any of them since when I lived her (over 8 years ago).

Im gonna be the odd man out and if he comes, ill basically just want to leave...

Riht now and Ive never said this before, but I kinda wanna go back to California....because I feel so loeft out! Her relationship is new so I don't want her not to spend time with him but I also didn't come all the way across the US to sit in the corner while they make out or inside jokes or whatever...:( I love her so much and want to enjoy my time with her...all weve really been doing is sitting on the computer while she skypes him ..:(

Should I tell her? I don't know when im ever gona visit again and we could split up by that time! And Im scared for that!

Advice guys?

Thanks..

I hate being rude. This mom seems like she seriously needs it. Last near, I babysat for them every Friday night, from 7 to about 12 or 1.

Her kids are just soo....ugh

So much violence. 6 yr old brother cant control his temper and will drag 3 yr old sister by her hair or hit her over the head with pans and laundry baskets until she's climbing my side and hiding under my clothes, screaming for her life trying to get away from him.

When she isn't being afraid, she's hitting with toys, throwing things at me, throwing food, hitting, biting, kicking.

Brother swears. "Don't turn off the lights! I'm afraid of the f***ing dark!"

"Zoya (sister), Im gonna f***ing kill you!" He's threatened to run away when I wouldn't make him nuggets for dinner because mom said noodles. He hit me with my shoes and kicked my legs to try to get outside then threw things and went to hit room to cry.

There's more but I don't get into details.

Their mom is strict and scares me but I'm afraid to quit. Ive said I had plans when she's wanted me to sit but I feel bad. She wants me Saturday from 7 probably till 12 and its not worth it! I can never get them to bed bcuz they don't listen and I never get to catch my breath...When school starts again, I cant do it anymore. But the thing is how should I quit? If she wants me every Friday, how do I quit that, politely? How to get out of Saturday? I don't want to see them again and make them think I want to come back cuz I cant take it D: I wanna be polite..help guys!

So, I'm just doing a little research for myself and others.

I want to know what teachers really think about the more introverted, quiet students in class.

So I'm going to be a Senior and I've always been quiet in most classes (unless there's allot of friends), and I've gotten mixed reactions from teachers. My history teacher from 10th year said to me after my biggest presentation at the end of the year, "That's the most you've said all year! It was impressive!" go t a 99% on that. Had an English teacher last year that I thought didn't like me, but I think she did. She came around and I let her into more of my personal life than I do other teachers.

Had a few teachers that liked my silence, but really only when everyone else wouldn't shut up. Had others that probably didn't like me. I'm a sweet kid, I just don't talk allot. Ill talk more if I know what to say. I'm shy around new people, and all that stuff.

But shouldn't teachers try to work with shy's like they do other students? I feel as though teachers should try their all to understand students that are quiet instead of assuming anything (which I know isn't easy).

How have teachers worked with introverts? What do introverted students which their teachers did for them? Introverted students cant just change because someone wants to, and though they may want to, they don't just become extroverts overnight. May sound harsh, but I feel really good teachers try to communicate/understand introverts.

Thoughts? No rudeness please

So my cat Patch is overall the sweetest of the 4 cats that we own at the moment. I know from my experience with cats that I'm definitely his favorite (won't go into why, but I just know. He's pretty obvious).

So anyway, just 10 minutes ago, he woke me up by coming onto my bed and being the pain in the butt that he likes to be and decides to climb all over my face. So I gave in and he snuggled next to me like he usually does an I started petting him. Now mind you, he's never had a problem with petting when he's comfortable and he was purring loud like he does. Well suddenly he freezes and looks off into the distance as I go in the stroke his head and he twists trying to bite me. Puzzled, I put my finger near his mouth, and sure enough he tried again. Then one more time, and he got me. Wouldn't let go of my finger, when I pulled it out, 2 deep bloody puncture wounds oozing red. So I pushed him off me and then he kinda snapped back to normal. Started meowing and crying like he does when he wants love and attention but I pushed him away for now, doesn't deserve it.

So why'd he just randomly bite me? There was nothing in the room to provoke him or anything.

Maybe he heard something (I didn't. Didn't see nothing either. And no, haha, our house isn't haunted).

It's usually and always has been (to me especially) a very loving and gentle creature and wouldn't no one, he doesn't hurt no one unless you REALLY, and I mean severely piss him off.

Thanks guys

17, and going into Senior year in HS.

So last year, one teacher got fired, the other class was a flop, 2 others were retiring and another also got fired...

But in my first class, ASL, where teacher #1 got unfairly fired, she stopped teaching and we all had fun and games for the good other 1/4 of the year.

Problem with that was I'm a pretty low key girl, pretty quiet, likes to keep to myself and listen to music and doodle while the rest of the class goes insane.

But it was really boring doing that for an hour each day.

Long story short, what can I do in my classes for this year if I get some free time at the end of class or if I get bored? I get bored really quickly and easily and usually lose concentration fairly quickly (which isn't great but oh well).

I don't want to do things that will get me in trouble or put the spotlight on me because I'm not that kind of person.

I know doodling, and daydreaming and stuff.

But maybe like origami? Maybe learn some pencil spinning tricks?

Just simple things I can do just to do, you know. Nothing huge and grand but nothing bland and boring like staring at the ceiling or something.

Just for those times in class when I need something to preoccupy me.

Thanks guys!

Hey guys so, we have 2 older female cats. Their brother passed away about 2 years ago at 11, and now his sisters are both 13.

Now, Daphne, who I recently weighed to about 6 lbs, is making me worried. She's always been a small cat, since we adopted her. Her heaviest was 9 lbs. She's absolutely tiny.

But as I described, she's very thin now, VERY boney. Her sister is kinda the same, but I'm going to focus on Daph.

Now, I've had this girl since I was a toddler, and I care for her very much. I'm afraid however, as cats tend to do, that her age is taking a toll on her.

She seems very happy, and is overall healthy, but how can I continue to make her lifestyle comfortable?

My baby, Toulouse, likes to pounce and chase her whenever she goes downstairs (except for community feeding time lol) and so she is rarely seen upstairs.

I give her extra wet food to keep her weight in check.

I especially want to ask what to do when she's ...you know..about to go..

I told my dad about bringing the vet to our house to do it so she's in more relaxed, and comfortable environment.

I was in England when my dad had to put Mouser down, and I NEED to be here when Daphne goes. I promised her that because I love her so much, pet owners will understand.

How can I Keep her comfortable and content and happy? She's not dying THIS MINUTE but she's old and fragile...gotta be cautious and ready...

any advice guys, for older cats?

Thanks..

Much appreciated

So it appeared randomly one morning. I woke up late around 1, looked in the mirror, and above my eye, not on my eyelid itself, but between my eye and my eyebrow, was like, some dry skin. It was kinda white so I scratched it off because it was bothering me and was noticeable.

It was sore after scratching but I just kinda left it alone. Then it started to get red and was kinda itchy but I tried to refrain from touching it.

Its only been there for a few days but its itchy and red and sore, and hurts when touched.

Now, I was at the movies and I started scratching it again. I went to the bathroom and it was really red and sore but its so itchy sometimes! then I noticed under! my eye, some more, just a tiny bit of the white dry skin started to appear, so I itched that a little as well.

Both places burn a bit.

I don't think its allergies? I mean, It just appeared one morning and has only been there for a few days, but I'm worried. This has never happened before, and I'm thinking that if it was allergies, it would happen before right??

What should I do? Should I ask my dad if I can see a dermatologist? if it doesn't go away by next week? Help guys lol :(

Thanks

-J

Hi...

So, I'm 16.Im 5"3, and just about 125 lbs. I'm a Junior in high school, and while I'm not TOTALLY into having a boyfriend at the moment...I always think about having one, but then I look at myself and ask, who would find me attractive?

I had a boyfriend before, like last year, but I wasn't really attractive to him....he probably wasn't even really into me either, he just wanted someone to kiss...and I just kinda wanted the experience.

I'm not really looking for a boyfriend right now, though there are a few cute boys at my school ;)

but like..I'm kinda shy around people I don't know, and I don't have many friends, I'm really? anti-social, its just, I like my space. and that last boyfriend was like, always up my butt wanting to hang out evry second of everyday. And it annoyed me.

Trying to find that right guy...but I'm scard. I live in California, and a large majority of the girls at my school are twigs! and I'm not. I'm not HUGE, but I'm not tiny. I got some chub in my stomach, and I bloat, really easily..like glass of water and my stomach stretches! (medical condition?lol)

Guys, what do you like in a girl?

Once someone gets to know me and Im comfortable, I'm all up for sports or a movie, or just hanging, or whatever, i'm pretty flexble with it all. Got a semi-messy medium pixie cut (brown hair) and brown eyes, lots of energy and a big heart, but I'm convinced I'm gonna grow up and die single...

Its kinda degrading on the self-image/esteem thing.

And that's not all that high either. I've always been pretty confident and outgoing....at least, more so around people I know, you know. I'm not one to just go hang out with strangers...I don't like being hurt. I knew a guy once who liked to move in uninvited on my personal space and my body, so I don't really let guys in right away...

There any hope for me?

Thanks guys...no rude comments please...:\

I'm 16. Ill be brief. I do not have a part time job just yet; I babysit each week, averaging $40 (more depending on the family). So every week I make about $40. As of now, I have saved over $1000.But only about $400 is for spending.

I want rats. My dad wont let me get them just yet, but when I DO get them, Id like to know if Ill be able to afford them. I know for sure I have enough for the rats themselves, and their food, bedding, cage, toys, etc right now. I know about medical bills and will always have at least $100-200 set aside for check ups/emergencies. I looked up the average cost for 2 rats per month and it came to like $70 a month, excluding medical.

That sounds doable to me, especially if I'm still babysitting every week/parttime job. Also, my dad isn't Mr. Strick. If im a bit short on cash, He'll help me out, but I'm determined to raise these guys with my own money, because they'll be MY pets.

We do have cats...4, and chances are we'll have at least 1-2 by the time my dad lets me get rats. I have time after school to socialize them and can keep them in the bathroom...where its a good temp and away from the cats. So what do you guys think? Just say Im averaging $40-50 a week, would I be able to afford the little guys for their lifespan? 2-3 yrs. Excluding medical bills for the moment.

Ill be 17 by that time, and will probably have a better paying job, but I want rats before I go to college...I love cats, but I want a pet all my own that will help me with responsibility as well for the future.

Also! bonus points for additional information about caring for rats, like websites and stuff, and ALSO where I could find a good breeder in California, near San Francisco, Bay Area. I know about pet store rats and I'm sure as hell not going to support that! But those poor rats D:

Anyways, thanks allot guys!

(No rude comments or answers please)

She has 2 children, 3 and 6.

1. They fight allot. Pulling hair, hitting, with pillows and laundry baskets too. Swearing (6 yr old dropped the F bomb) and they just don't get along.

2. I'm constantly having trouble getting the toddler to bed. I have over 4 years of XP with toddlers (I'm 16) but this chicks crazy. Just tonight, she finally got to sleep at 11, 2 hours past bed time and I did everything and more than what Mom told me. She tells me not to stress if she doesn't sleep but as a sitter, it's my duty to get them to sleep, you know.

She spat at my face countless times tonight, hit, kicked, BIT and licked. Threw her bottle at me along with many other things she could get her hands on and drew on the carpet -_-.

Toddlers are hard, but here's the thing. I am the primary sitter for this family and 2 others, quitting this job wouldn't kill me. And I feel bad because the parents go out allot, like, they need breaks.

How do I quit politely? I feel a bit bad...2 weeks notice?

16 in December. Junior in high school. Already been to summer school twice, 2nd time taking Algebra, and I have an F. Got a test back: 47%.

My tutor last year basically quit on me after nothing he tried helped me understand what we were doing and if I did, literally, I'd forget it the next day and we'd have to start over.

I just don't understand what we're doing. I don't understand how you can do something like A over D divided by something and get an answer? Or "two trains leave here at 15 mph" as those, I srsly CAN'T do those.

My parents don't know what to do. They're running out of tutors. If I don't pass now ill be held back. My other subjects are fine but since forever I have sucked at math. My parents tested my sister for dyslexia after one year of struggling in reading (she doesn't even try!) and haven't even thought about dyscalculia for me after years of struggling.

What can I do? Who can help? Who could I talk to or my parents talk to? It's really hurting my confidence.

Alright so, I just bought a mini cruiser from Big 5 (I know, not great for skateboards) but I bought it. I paid about 50 bucks for it.

I go home and try it out and the first thing I notice is that when I push off, the back makes a clanking noise.

So I looked, and noticed that where there trucks? ( metal "T" thing) goes into the black plate that's attached to the deck, is not securely placed. It's loose. So I can physically move the whole truck left and right.

The front truck is fine, but the back is not "molded" in to stay still and straight.

What can I do? It's annoying and I know it's prob a pretty cheap board but I don't have money lol

Should I take it back and get a different one? Is that a good reason because I don't really think so...

Help?

Thanks! No rude comments please.