What is my problem??? I need advice?

Everyone tells me how nice and sweet I am, inclusive of my son and people who really know me well. Most of my friends think I do not want a man, but I do. They think I am just joking as usual and say I deserve a good man, but they don't feel I want one. I am an attractive lady, yet a little overweight--not a hippo, just about 30-45 lbs overweight. Many of all races say I am pretty or cute or attractive and all say I have a warm smile. Some say I am too darned
I really never get approached by good ones, only the jerks or ones who I do not want to be with--not because of looks alone, but because of hygeine, etc.. I finally got enough nerve to ask this man at church if he was seeing somenone. He did like me, but I was nervous to find out. ANyway, Sunday,he rejected me. He said I was too late...LOL. He is a nice man, a little arrogant, but nice. I want to know signals when a man likes me.
I have been married before, but husband is deceased for over 10 years. Please help?

La_Belle_LadyR992006-06-20T22:26:43Z

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Never give up, the search will keep you happy!

Anonymous2006-06-21T05:50:47Z

It not you in my opinion I'm going through something similar,i Believe God Has something for us that's going to make us just flip.we
just have wait and not be in such a rush for my one our one ex husband came to my house a few weeks ago to inform me he found someone like me,The lady was in the car with him.So being the nut that I went out to meet her, Anywho just be patient God Has the one we are made for. I've gained about 30 extra after two aneurysms and two strokes in 1999

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,saith the LORD,thoughts of peace,and not of evil,to give you an expected end.

Romans 8:28 And we know all things work together for good to them that love God,to them who are called according to his purpose 29. For whom he did foreknow,he also did Predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son,that he might be the firstborn among many brethren { read it for yourself,ask the Lord to help you understand that he has a plan for your life}


My pastor told me What God has for me is for me,and no one can take that away from me if he's arrogant why do you want him? Just wait that's what I'd say I'm not an expert
I think they think cause your not a size 12 your desperate,

bunnychugger2003@sbcglobal.net2006-06-21T05:29:48Z

I am sorry to hear about your husband. You have been out of the game for a while. There are still a few good guys out there. If men are concerned about weight and looks, they are not the right men for you. Look for a man who glances at you. One who when you look his direction, he looks down, and loses eye contact. You don't need an arrogant man. Search for one who has a heart. Don't be afraid to show yours. God bless.

showtimegk2006-06-21T05:28:24Z

If you catch them looking at you or if you find them popping up and talking to you for no apparent reason, things like that.

It is good to ask him out. I think that a lower-risk one is to say that you should hang out sometime and let him take some initiative.

any questions, I would be glad to help

Anonymous2006-06-21T05:26:53Z

weird, this sounds almost like the profile of a singles online dating.

well it seems you already know what the signals are you just need to act on it.

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