Is my boyfriend selfish? Or am I overreacting?

I need some advice, my bf and I have been dating for over 8yrs and have two BEAUTIFUL kids. The problem is that he's never really around to help. He has never read a book to our kids, he's never given them a bath, he won't take time off for school parties/concerts, he refuses to pick our daughter up from school cause he "doesn't like the school setting" it apparently brings back bad memories for him. Our daughters birthday is next weekend when he has to work but, he won't take it off, he just took last Saturday off to go drinking with friends and cousins and didn't come home till the afternoon. He's constantly leaving me at home alone to care for OUR kids while he goes out and drinks with friends. He has practically no involvement in our kids lives! What do I do?? Is it time to leave him? I've tried telling him how I feel but he thinks I'm trying to "control" him.

Anonymous2012-11-18T12:55:53Z

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Leave him! Hes probably going to be like that for the rest of your relationship if you stay with him. He should help you with the kids.

ton2016-11-27T01:07:48Z

perhaps he aint getting adequate sexual exhilaration so he's on component and impolite greater in many cases. yet he additionally sounds like he has a miles better difficulty happening... cuz he ought to understand which you wanan consume nutrition in the previous you starve in the previous you confer with him on the telephone. its additionally a threat that he didnt get your text cloth asserting "im gonna consume first then call you, xoxox" so it would all basically be miscommunication

Tin-God2012-11-18T12:48:31Z

my question is, why now ?
why let him be like this all these years then choose now to wheel him in
he is a waste of time but you let him become one

Elizabeth2012-11-18T12:41:34Z

He's extremely selfish and immature. Leave him and make him pay child support.