I've read that spanking your kids actually make them dumber but my parents told me that those who weren't spanked end up being disrespecful to their employers & other authorities.
Jessica M
i was spanked as a child and I'm consider myself successful. I came from a family of 3 girls and we were all spanked every blue moon depending on what was done or said. I have five children and I give them spankings as well, I wouldn't consider it abuse. I work in a school, mostly with 2-6 year olds and I believe a few spankings will fix some of the problems they give their parents. They disrespect us teachers as well as their parents, and do not listen to no authority figure. But the children who do receive spankings at home are well behaved for someone their age, I don't expect them to be perfect angels but one or two warnings will stop whatever wrong behavior they were doing, and they respect authority and overall I think they are well rounded kids.
Loulla
I was raised in the 80's where spanking was pretty much the norm!
I was spanked, but only got it twice, and I was in my early teens both times.
I've never been unsuccessful per se, I went to school, then college, then took a gap year for uni and worked full time, got used to the money and didn't go back for uni....family wise I'm successful, I'm happily married, with two children (who I don't spank) and I'm currently happier now than I've been in a while.
I don't look down on those who spank their kids, but I do feel sorry for them because they clearly have no restraint and are like children themselves in that sense.
There are other ways to parent, without using physical force :)
Sligo
Parents say a lot of things to their children. I was told that if I ate my bread crust it would give me the ability to whistle.
I was spanked quite a bit as a child even though I was the 'good one' because my parents believe that you even if you do well you can always do better. So far it hasn't affected my ability to work a respectable job and I am an A student at uni.
I do wish my parents would have tried other forms of punishment before resorting to physical pain. Inflicting physical pain on another person should be reserved for self defense.
Respect is earned through action. I did not nor do not respect my parents due to their poor life choices. I do not respect authority figures who act selfishly or foolishly. I am polite and professional to others around me but that is vert different from respect.
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A lot of parents who spank don't really understand how discipline works. So they think no spanking = no discipline. This is simply incorrect.
No discipline at all is certainly a poor way to raise a child, and can result in poorly behaved adults.
Spanking instills some discipline, but overall has been proven one of the least effective methods. Spanked kids are actually more likely to become aggressive and confrontational adults than kids who are not spanked.
This does not mean that all kids who are spanked are doomed... of course that would be silly. We're just talking about statistics and variations-- individual, personal situations will vary.
Ideally, discipline should be enforced without violence-- starting with setting firm boundaries, setting a good model for behavior, being attentive to the child's needs, using praise and reinforcement, and, if warranted, punishment or correction.
Unfortunately, a lot of parents simply don't know how to do this, or don't make the effort to do it because it takes more time and patience than spanking. Again, how successful a person will be depends on the individual case, but when discipline without spanking is applied properly it is far superior to spanking.
Sky
I was never spanked as a kid (I'm 27) and my parents were really strict with me they had a lot of rules bet they never spanked me they do the same thing with my little sister now(13) and I'm a school principal I think it's better to give kids rules and put boundaries it was always tough love for me I could never do the things my friends did I had to be up at 5 AM every morning to do chores (so does my sister now) my dad is also in the army so I always had to say:yes sir,No sir
You don't need to spank your kid to teach them discipline!