Why do we allow people to hurt us?

If you dont open yourself up to experience life, (ie: getting hurt) then you wouldnt have the chance to experience love.

I get frustrated with people who KNOW they are being abused and continue on the same path of not getting out of it or any help at all. They tell me everything that is wrong, and dont want to endure it.. but cant change it either. I guess they just dont want to feel the pain of loneliness or change to make room in their life to maybe be able to accept something better.

maybe they dont think they deserve any better?

I dont know, but DAMN, does it annoy me as Ive been there (didnt leave cause oohh soo lonely) and hated myself for REMAINING with him for so long. As soon as I got out of it, I had the most AMAZING time of my LIFE!

Hurting is an old adage means of control. It's am empowerment which simulates the Psyche of an individual to express a reward. That comes around in many forms, such as, punishments, absenteeism, neglect, physical pain. There is nothing or anybody out there, no matter what should not put boundaries from any relation sip, what should be addressed from the get go. Don't hurt, don't let them, don't put up with it. You will no the only one that they will do that too. In your mind. you should be the last. Let them learn, but not at your expense.

Good Luck

Only the ones you care about can hurt you.

Some folks equivocate pain with love. Some have learned that it hurts to care and think that feeling pain is a way of showing devotion.

The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care, right? Yeah.

When someone abuses us it re-enforces our own self image.

Most abusers dont start by hitting you, they tear you down emotionally and mentally first, they tell you that you are bad, worthless and that you need them, that if you leave them or they leave you, you wont be able to find someone else. That way when they hit you you cant leave cause you need them. People with good self esteem are much harder to abuse, but those of us who have been hurt and torn down are easy targets. That is why when you are getting out of a relationship you need to work on yourself first.

Because we believe in the greater good of Human Beings and sometimes some Humans are just plain out no good! I have learned this the hard way. But it's true.

it's not that we allow it to happen we some times don't see it happening.and when we look at what is going on and look in the depth of things,we can make our minds up as to what we can do to help our selves with it,

we never let it happen to us it just came on us all and we didn't see it for the way it happened.

its a good question and ive asked myself that countless times. if you mean emotionally i can try help, well heres my answer.

we are born with the instinct to childishly trust people and hope that there is some good in everyone, sometimes we may invest ourselves to much in this, and thats when we get hurt. we keep hoping, keep trusting,and as a result keep hurting. its depressing, and we should learn, but its human nature

People do not hurt my physically. However, on occasion, they do emotionally. To prevent that, I'd need to close myself off from other people - and I'm not willing to do that. I'm in my life to LIVE it, and my life includes others. :) I'm willing to experience the occasionally pain to experience the frequent joy.

I think it's our conditioning from childhood. They say you have to break the circle if you want to be free of it.

for most, it is a need to fit in or belong. just be yourself and enjoy who you are