Letting it happen or plan it?

its up to you the benefits of both are great..

planning it can lead to stress and dissapointment which in turn can throw out your cycle a little, but it is a great way to get to know your body and your partners body alot better.. but it may happen sooner

let it happen is great because it will be a suprise when you do become pregnant.... but it may take longer as you wont know when the right time is to do it and so on

what ever you decide i wish you luck and i cant wait to find out what you and your partner have decided...

I've had 4 that were planned and 2 that weren't. It was so much easier for both my husband and I to feel involved and connected to the pregnancies we planned. We didn't love the other two any less, we were just better prepared for the ones we planned. So I would say I would plan before just letting it happen. Of course, my definition of planning it is deciding to have one, and not using birth control methods. Basically feeling that if it happens, it happens. If you have decided to TTC in a year, you have essentially already planned it in my book.

My daughter was conceived on our honeymoon (not planned) born in July...I always wanted a baby in the spring time and would have liked them three years apart but once she turned three I knew I was running out of time LOL...so I started to plan for the second...I kept careful track of my periods and knew when during the month I would be ovulating and had a window of like 4 days TTC...with my son, it took I think about 3 months or so before he was conceived (which isn't bad because I heard it can take a lot longer) but because it didn't work out exactly how I planned I got another summer baby in August ;)

Really all depends on you. Answer these questions for yourself... Is there a certain time of year you would like the birthday? Is there a certain time of year that would be better financially? Is there a certain time of year that out of state family members (the ones you would really want to come) can come to b-day parties or the birth? Would you rather be far along or early in your pregnancy during the summer? There are a few of the questions you should ask yourself. If you answer no to all of the questions then you should just let it happen, but if you do have specific answers for them then you should "try" to conceive 9 months before that specific time.

I say just let it happen. I know many women who've TTC for years without success then gave up and conceived. My own sister is one such child. After 7 years of TTC, 1 failed adoption, 1 successful adoption, and my oldest sister was conceived within 3 months.

We tried TTC with our first, nothing. Gave up and conceived the very next month. We've just let it happen since.

Best wishes whichever way you decide. Children are hard work but are such blessings!

Even if you plan it, they happen on their own!!!

My husband and I said that we would "start trying" when we thought it was the right time. We didn't know when we would actually get pregnant (and you never do), so it took us about 6 months to get there.

I guess what I'm saying is, there is no "planning it". You can plan when to take the last birth control pill, that's about it.

Im pregnant with an unplanned child currently. I would say you can never be to ready but I am so excited and feel that i am pregnant for a reason. I would still say try to plan because you go through a lot when your pregnant and it is best to be as ready as possible. Either way it is a great feeling to have a child ready or not.

You know, it's just nicer to let it happen, and have things come what may. The two of you can just enjoy trying (!) and not have it get feeling like a "chore" and something you have to do with only one end goal! That puts way too much stress on a marriage.

We conceived in two years, naturally, after we got married.

How about a bit of both. Plan a nice romantic evening around the time you're ovulating. Its only a 25% chance that youll be pregnant even if you have sex during that time anyway. So, make it special and let it happen when God says you should :)

All three of my kids were planned pregnancies.

And once we started trying, it was pretty quick to conceive. With my 1st it took a second try and with my 2nd and 3rd it happened immediately!

For us actually trying was best. Especially since we were so looking f/w to having a baby.