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Will my husband cheat on me if I don't sleep with him?
After being separated for 3 years I want to learn to trust him. He is emmotionally abusive and controlls everything. He makes plans and breaks them all the time. I don't have acces to his money ( I am a stay at home mom of a 4 year old ) and he wont let me do stuff w/o my son. If I am out he texts me constantly. We just moved in together two weeks ago but I sleep in one room and he in another. I cant seem to get intimate. I dont trust that he will follow through.
25 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
you need to hold your own. stop letting him control you. put your kid in daycare and get a full time job. he cannot control you. for someone to control you, they have to isolate you. that is what you are letting him do. just get a job, make your own money and let him know that you don't need him.
- 1 decade ago
Him cheating on you would the best thing that happened to you. Then you can divorce him and say it was because of adultery on his part. You don't deserve or anyone should be in a realtionship like the one you are in now. Your son is the most important thing in your life right now and you just have to get rid of the person who is holding you back from having a great life. Trusting him now is too late.He already done did his dirty deed and you were blind to see that part. So you are still blind to it. Taking him back is the biggest mistake you made and now it's time to correct it and move out.This is dysfunctional realtionship you have going.Your son is in the middle of it and you need to start thinking about him first.Really,you need to have him in a safe place.Move out.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
First of all, why do you want to be with someone who is controlling?
I can see why you have intimacy issues with him.
If you both can't work out things together like with talking or counseling, you shouldn't be worrying about him cheating on you,you should be more thinking about how you can stand on your own 2 feet and lead a happier life for you and your son.
- 1 decade ago
Let him cheat all he wants - he's not a true husband.
You probably are back with him because he has made you feel like you can't survive without him. He wants you to feel that way - dependent on him so he can control you.
You need to reach down deep inside and pull out your strength and confidence, and walk away.
- then file for divorce!
Good Luck.....
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
I f he hasn't already, sorry. 3 years with no sex I don't know what man wouldn't cheat!!!! But you have more problem than you think!!!! Emotionally abusive, controlling, plans everything regarding you. I think you guys need to seek counseling or you need to get out of that relationship.
- Nena SLv 61 decade ago
You two have serious problems. Go to therapy to see if you can work things out. But be certain that unless BOTH of you want to work on your relationship, things will not improve.
Be careful. The last thing you need under these already tense circumstances is to accidentally get pregnant !!!
- tweetybird37406Lv 61 decade ago
if what you say is true, why are you back with him? it looks like he's the one with the trust issues. you need to take your 4 year old and leave. the two of you will be better off.
- ChamLv 61 decade ago
WOW and YOU want to learn to trust a control freak abuser?
Are you brain dead?? STOP beign so co dependant and stand on your OWN two feet..do You love the abuse..if so stay..but if you do not like it which I can see you do not..then LEAVE and file for divorce!!!!!!
- ?Lv 71 decade ago
Both of you need counselling. Husbands and wives need to respect and trust each other. They are to support each other in times of need. That seems to be lacking in your relationship and it won't be long that the cycle of fighting and leaving will go on unless you do something.
- .Lv 71 decade ago
Some people have been known to cheat when their partner wasn't satisfying their sexual desires. We have no way of knowing if your husband will do so or not.
I suggest counseling for the two of you though. Your relationship sounds fraught with issues.