Toonie Dance/Money Dance at weddings?

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I've seen a toonie dance at a couple weddings I went to, and i've read about it online and heard a couple of my close friends talk about it.  I've recently told the girls in my wedding party about it and they think its really tacky and I shouldn't have it, and saying its rude to ask people for money at your wedding........

I was told by people who have been to weddings that its a good idea....any opinions??

sarai_kristi · Accepted Answer

I think it's kind of tacky, but that's just my opinion. Think about the people who will be at your wedding and how they would react - if you think they'll have fun with it, then it's probably alright.

Emme · Answer

It's a regional and cultural thing. By Toonie Dance, I can tell that you're in Canada. My mother married in Quebec in the mid-80's, and it was an acceptable thing to do at that time. I've recently moved to upstate NY and am 46 days away from wedding, and the Dollar Dance is common practice, and acceptable here as well. Some people find it tacky, some don't. If most weddings in your area have it, and you want to do it, then go ahead. The one's who find it tacky simply won't participate.

gr_gal1993 · Answer

This is a battle that I've been having with our family regarding our wedding reception.  I am personally opposed to the idea of a dollar dance, but it's fairly common here and to make matters worse it's a Hungarian immigrant tradition in my fiance's family, so we're probably going to have a dollar dance, but our DJ will be advising people that it's an old tradition in the groom's family.  

It's not traditional in my family, but many of my cousins have still done it, because it is so common in this region, and the rest of the relatives haven't complained too much, so hopefully the backlash will be minimal.  I just feel odd charging people to dance with me...

Best wishes though!!!!

SweetPeaMcZ · Answer

Your not asking people for money, hasn't anyone heard YOUR SUPPOSE TO GIVE THE NEWLY WEDS MONEY!! I've read alot of people say it's tacky IT'S A TRADITION!! wearing black  or white to a wedding now that's tacky!! My family has always done it not to get but to give!! Congrats on your wedding

Kashi · Answer

If you feel weird about taking money (I did, and didn't do a dollar dance or whatever you want to call it), maybe you can let everyone know that the money given at that dance will be donated to a charity- pick one that is important to you.  Then, maybe you'll actually get more people to do it!  If you're really a couple just getting on your feet and struggling though, I think people don't mind doing it.  I didn't do it because we were already on our feet and living together, etc.

Deanrijo · Answer

For some cultures it is part of their tradition.  In general, I think it is very tacky and, if it is not already a tradition that is practiced in your family, they will likely think it is tacky too.  It is always rude to blatantly ask for money, especially when many have alrady been kind enough to bring you a gift, now you are going to ask for more?  Just doesn't seem right....

oy vey · Answer

I DETEST things like this at weddings.  A wedding is a celebration of your love for one another.  To me the dollar dances and all the like are just begging for money and I can't stand seeing this at weddings.  It's like saying,  thanks for coming, thanks for bringing a gift, now open up your pockets and give us some more.  Bad taste.

Kellie21 · Answer

Totally good idea, I would do it at my wedding...hey they are at your wedding it is one day out of the rest of there lives and it is a fun way to earn some money for your honeymoon....Go For it!

Lydia · Answer

I think it should be done if it TRULY is a part of the culture/ethnicity of the couple. 
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