My husband is so afraid of me getting pregnant?

Well, I'm not sure why he is so afraid.

But maybe you could take him to the GYN with you, have your doctor explain to him how the birth control works and what the percentage of risk is. Talking to a doctor might ease his mind.

If after talking to your GYN he still is afraid, then maybe you could double-up your forms of birth-control:

make an agreement with him to stay on the pill and use condoms, also to not have sex while you're ovulating, then he might feel more comfortable.

Even with the pill and condoms, he doesn't have to ejaculate in you if he isn't comfortable, he could pull out alittle early.

Besides that, you could also consider switching to a more effective form of birth control than the pill:

a copper IUD is considered the most effective form of birth control, perhaps you and your husband could discuss this option together with your GYN.

Talk to him about his fears, there has to be some root cause to make him so aware of this just now, especially if sexual intercourse has never been a problem in your marriage before, good luck

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to the first poster who said you can not get pregnant from anal, oh how very wrong you are!

He is a freak. I'm sorry but the universe has a way of making things happen whether you say you want it or not. My husband and I were together for 13 years before we had our son. We were actually trying for 3 years.

If you are careful and take the pill and use condoms you should be okay. His anxiety over getting pregnant is too much. He should stop obsessing about it. The reason why doctors do not perform the operation on young people is because they usually change their mind. Mark my words, in 5 years when all of your friends have kids you will change your mind. I wasn't ready until I was 32. If you would have asked me in my early 20's I would have said no way.

I'm sorry but it seems that there is another problem in the relationship besides the one you wrote about. You may not know what it is, therefore you should sit down and have a serious talk with him about what the problem really is.

It just seems strange that after 5 years (and not even a close call) he suddenly becomes scared. For him not to want to have sexual intercourse is not a normal behavior. Sit down and have a serious talk with him and find out what his problem really is.

Your last statement is absolutely incorrect. If you are old enough to get married, there is a doctor somewhere who will perform a vasectomy. I have had one myself, and it was well worth it. It is great not to have to worry about pregnancy - very liberating!

In answer to your other questions, though, no, your husband's behavior is not normal. It is unlikely, though, that you could change it. It almost sounds like a phobia, and if it has developed into an irrational fear, he would need to see a counselor to get treatment for that.

It almost sounds like you got pregnant having sex with your husband and he did not want you to get pregnant. If that little surprise is what is behind this, you will never change his mind because you trick him into having a child and therefore, he will not have sex with you. Oh by the way, any man can get a vasectomy as long as he is willing to sign the documents. I know I did!

Apparently you married an idiot and was not aware of his mental capacity. Kidding, print off the reports showing the chances of pregnancy using the pill, that should relieve his mind and allow him to finally enjoy sexual intercourse. Or, he could be using that as an excuse to get out of having sexual intercourse. If that is the case he may need professional help. Good luck.

Use a condom along with the pill or get the Depo shot. I mean try different birth control methods that might make him feel a little more secure. Otherwise, he needs to grow up and assume the position.

wow, that is really wild, my suggestion is to first tell him how you feel and if that doesn't work get information or pamplets that will help back up what you are saying. He may have issues that need to be analized by a professional, or he may be worried about his proformance. I would say corner him and get to the bottom of it one way or the other, booze helps loose the lips but be careful you might find something you weren't looking for..

lie to the doctor. tell the doc that your man already has 7 kids with 5 different women and he will reconsider. My ex had a v and thank gosh we got a divorce and he had sex with 3 different girls in 3 months and they all ended up preg but they weren't his. he is a hoe now that he got his v.

your husband is not stupid. he knows you can't get pregnant with the pill & condoms. I think he is just not as interested in having sex as he used to. I'm not saying that he's cheating..he probably isn't, but just not interested in having sex like when you two first met.