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anita asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

how do you start a conversation and continue talking without akward silence?

need to learn How to start a conversation!Help!!!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Be interested in the other person and don't think as much about yourself. Think of things you would like to know about them , but don't come across with a bombardment of questions, but rather a conversation.

    Example: You are standing waiting for a bus and there is someone from your school that you don't know too well, but would like to know or talk to. Say something like, "Brr, its really cold today, I wish we didn't always have to wait so long" (you just start out casual, telling them a little about what you are thinking, but nothing too deep.). You could then say, where do you live? how long a ride is it? Are your parents at home when you get there?

    Example: "Wow. I had so much homework this weekend, I wish our social studies teacher would be a little more considerate that we have a life after school. I had to work two nights for my job and the rest of the time it was social studies. How bout you. Did it take you all weekend too?"

    When someone says something, follow it up with acknowledging what they have said, such as "wow, you really have it rough! I'm glad that's not happening in my family/ job/ etc." ....."that 's really interesting. tell me more"

    Try to get the other person to talk about themselves and be an incredible listener. People love to talk about themselves and they would usually want to talk about themselves than hear too much of you talking about yourself.

    There are some books at your local library and online and local bookstores about this skill. It takes practice, but the more you do it, the more skilled you get. I think that is how Barbara Walters and other TV interviewers get their break--practicing and being genuinely interested in learning about the other and getting that person to talk about him/ her self in a way that does not make them feel uncomfortable. It is an art.

    THere is also a great and very famous book called How to Win Friends and Influence People. The more reading you do on this topic, the more it will help you become better having conversations that makes people at ease.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Gee... Depends on the situation of course.

    If you don't know the person, start with introducing yourself. "Hi. I'm Susan." They will automatically respond with their name. Then I guess I'd move on to whatever you have in common -- which will be whatever event you are at with them. (I mean, you're in the same place, so there has to be something.)

    If you already know the person, just "Hi" and ask a question.

    The awkward silences you'll have to work through, but don't be afraid to say, "It was nice talking to you," and move on. Sometimes you have said all there is to say for one day. You can always talk with them again later and avoid the silence.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    omfg i have the same exact problem. Ready I walk home with this guy everyday and its like a minute walk because we take diff turns and like that 30 second awkward silence just kills me because im like wow hell never like me now because im boring and dont talk. Its so hard for me when Im around guys but all your other people I can help. with syblings you can talk about how annoying your mom or dad is or whats for dinner or omg our cousins are coming simple stuff. with people you just met be like so tell me about urself like what school you went to,was it any good?,you miss it and school stuff. with close friends I have silences sometimes too but usually we just talk about boys school and stuff thats going on in our daily lives! hope I helped..you def helped me by asking this question..the gay baby thing is something im dying to try lol cuz if i can make him laugh ill be happy. THNXXXX!!

  • 1 decade ago

    if you know that you're

    gonna have a conversation with them

    make a list in your head

    on what you want to talk about

    i have conversation going

    for a month now online

    all because

    i know how to answer back

    but i know what to ask to the person

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  • 1 decade ago

    You cant, you will always get it but remember the silence is with both people, it wont ruin anything.

    You need to find topics either from current affairs, music or if that fails just people watch and talk about them if they look silly.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well this what I would do:

    Talk about the weekend

    ask how they are

    talk about movies

    make jokes

    try to see if they lead the conversation (really good if they're talkers)

    Tell them what you guys should do

    Compliment them

    Well this is all i know...hope it helps!

    Source(s): me
  • 1 decade ago

    u start it with questions like how r u, how was ur day, how r u managing with the weather "it's too cold here", what plans for summer, and ask about their hobbies, what they like to do in their free time what plans for future and by that time the conversation will be going. don't be afraid of the silence because it always happens ask questions and talk about urself in the same time, what kind of food u like, what u wanna be in the future, what u see urself in the next 5yrs what's in ur agenda for 2009 etc.

    good luck;)

  • 1 decade ago

    It depends on the person.

    If its a friend, talk about stuff you two both know about.

    If its someone your interested in, talk about them and what they like. They'll probably ask you similar questions and you can take it from there.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you ae talking about converations on dates,

    then if there is a conection there wont be an akward silence with the rite person!

    xxx

  • 1 decade ago

    If you feel the silence coming say something out of the ordinary or start singing something everyone knows.

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