Have you ever wondered if your husband weren't around any more?

I do spend some time alone when he is away with his job, a night or two a week, and every week or two. Sometimes I go with him. It's gotten a little better staying by myself for a night or two, but I know he is coming back. I really don't like it though. I'm so happy to see him walk back through that door. I have had thoughts of what it would be like if he were not here at all. It makes me sad, so I don't like to think about it. I would be totally alone here. There are no friends or family where we live. I would probably try to move back to my hometown when I could. Most of all, I would miss him being a part of my life, no matter where I lived.

I don't have a husband nor a boyfriend. I haven't had either one in some time now. I would like to say that I am not afraid of being alone because I do get scared here sometimes living alone. But that fear is what helps me to deal with what goes on in the middle of the night. As every one knows when you are scared or nervous of something, that thing called adrenaline kicks in with me, that is when I guess I am at my dumbest because I am no longer afraid of what is out there.

As far as someone breaking into my house while I am in it, well let's just say they will think twice before breaking into my house when they see what will be facing them on this side of the door.

Don't get me wrong, I am not tough by any means, just don't scare me and we will get along fine.

I do not have to wonder - my husband has been gone for quite a long time now. I do not get scared in the middle of the night. I do miss him and when I need a man's touch on a project around the house, I now have to pay someone to come in and do it. But then again I did not marry him to "fix" things. There is a great deal more to marriage than having a warm body in bed with you at night!

Hope this helps.

CJ

If he were gone for good I'd probably not be afraid--he's my second husband. I raised 4 kids alone out in the Boonies and got mad instead of scared of night noises. Once went the whole way around the outside of my house with butch knife in hand.

Pappy Tee can be pretty oppressive and control- freakish. Times my drive home from work, we HAVE to shop together or the world ends, etc,etc. I really don't enjoy living like this, so I would probably do a little freedom dance and throw a kegger! PAAARRRTTTYYY ' til the cows came home! (I'm awful, ain't I ? , but it's nothing I haven't said to his face.)

I have been divorced and living by myself for 17 years and I have never been afraid at night. I don't know if that makes me brave or stupid! I live in a very small community and have only one next-door neighbor. They are usually gone during the winter months. My doors are unlocked year round, day and night. And in the summer, since I don't have air conditioning, they are open. I was fifty when I began living alone. If I had to start at the age I am now it might be a whole different story.

My first one is dead & I wish the second one (ex) was. I've been with the current man for over 5 years. A few times a year he's gone for a few days at a time, but I have 3 big dogs & guns. I wouldn't be afraid, except for the teens next door who have been on drugs, in jail, etc. They are afraid of the dogs.

I have never been afraid at night since I thought I had a bear in my room and discovered that it was only my Dad snoring in his room down the hall. I don't know why but nothing much ever scared me again. I would have had to protect my first husband and the second didn't care one way or the other. I haven't been married for 16 years and have had no trouble.

I've been through that and yes it can be a little scary but I'm well secured so someone would find it much easier if they wanted to break in to try elsewhere. But saying I'm well secured I can find an easy way out incase of fire . I think one needs to look at all these things and sometimes it could be better to sell the home and go to a retirement village. One day there will be one left not a nice thought but a real one so one needs to face up to that.

No. I keep a loaded gun under my mattress. When hubby is away at times over night I close and lock my bedroom door when I go to bed. Our 9 year old grandson sleeps in my room during those nights on a small sofa. Grandson does not know about the hidden gun. Poppy

You might be afraid for a little while, but you would adapt. Many women find themselves living alone and adjusting in their senior years and they make whatever changes they need to go on. My 85 year-old-mother keeps a shotgun and has a gun permit. She needs it in her neighborhood. I have a dog, who isn't much for guarding, but raises a lot of racket if she thinks someone doesn't belong.