Why do young women today take vows to obey their husbands?

Obey is kind of fierce...i dont like that...but it looks like the woman should submit to the husband...but the husband should die if he has to for his wife.

Traditionally the father is those things to his daughter until the wedding day when the husband takes over this role. The man traditionally asks the father for his daughter's hand in marriage because the father is SUPPOSED to always look out for what is best for his daughter and would only grant permission if the man was ready to become a husband.

I do agree with this. Marriage is a representation of our relationship with Jesus Christ. Jesus is the "husband" and the people are his "bride". A husband takes care of his wife and promises to guide her through life. She submits to him gladly because no one else honors her and protects her and looks out for her best interest the way he does. It's not that he says scrub the bathrooms and she does or that she can't think for herself. It's that she knows he will help her make the best decisions in life. A good husband doesn't take advantage of that and treasures his wife's wisdom.

It's actually a beautiful symbolism but because our world is so imperfect these days it has lost it's original meaning. It's hard to find a dad now that actually looks out for the best interest of his daughter whole heartedly these days or a man that "preaches" this and doesn't abuse it. :(

If you put it into context of a christian marriage then obey is not a bad thing. It doesnt mean do everything he says and be a doormat. A man who is honouring his wife would never ask or expect her to do anything that he himself wouldnt do. He would not boss and bully her or beat her or leave her short of money or tie her to the kitchen sink with a dozen kids etc. Obey is not the only word in the ceremony. The problems arise when some bozo thinks that obey gives him dispensation to be waited on hand and foot and never make a contribution to the raising of the kids.

I think that its traditional to ask the father, it also gives the guy a chance to be alone with his future dad in law and bond a bit, without the interference of the females of the family. You know pass on a bit of wisdom (eg just let them get on with the wedding plans lol)

I do not agree with the "obey" word because God did not mean for us to obey but become the other half of a whole relationship in marriage. Asking the Fathers permission is a good thing to do. If the gentleman wants to be accepted by the family its important that he goes about it the right way. Having the family's blessing is good.

Because marriage is a covenant. Husbands are also to honor and cherish their wives. The husband belongs to the wife, and the wife to the husband. I agree with this because I understand the concept, being a husband and the father of daughters and sons. A man asks the father not for permission, but rather his blessing; afterall, he is relinquishishing the responsiblity for the care of his daughter to another man. This is a life long commitment not to be taken lightly.

I do not agree with this. I married in 1993 and they did not say obey. As far as I know they do not do that anymore. A wife is not property. She is a grown woman with a mind and a will of her own and she should use it.

At our wedding I had them leave out obey. At the end we were pronounced Husband and Wife. When asking who gives the bride away, I've often heard the father (who walked her down the aisle) say her Mother and I do. My hubby and I are equal partners in this relationship.

i believe that the word obey is not understood in the context of wedding vows towards the husband..... obey in the context of marriage, the word, obedience goes far beyond the surface definition. For wives, "obeying" your husband shows the world that you respect him, NOT that you are not equal to him or subserviant. It indicates your love towards him, your respect of him, and your wishes to please him. The husband will never use that to his advantage, since he has vowed to love, honour (to hold in respect; esteem) and cherish (to treat with affection and tenderness; hold dear) his wife.

A relax to me isn't any different than a time of sleep. All different situations, even while 'at relax', isn't 'relax' once I nonetheless could be unsleeping approximately something. i'd be all delightfully screaming to myself like "ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh relax" -- once I get to get my finished 'arrest' from the restlessness of my pastime. *a baby refusing to sleep for the duration of nap time? Yeah, in command of 'restsistance'... hahahahahah!

thats not the way young brides see it .. .. first let me tell you ..my wife is and has the same rights as me .. we are one .. but we talk things out so we go in the same way .. all the time .. and we dont fight we talk things out i am the lucky one with her