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Would you have a problem with your son or daughter marrying another?

race other than your own? and why.

I would not want my son /daughter marrying outside their race.

Not really because I am racist, but the children would have problems.

My cousin (black, his mom was raped, and she couldn't give up the baby, because she had no way of knowing if it could of been her husbands or the rapists) grew up with lots of problems because he was mainly black , but had white parents and family. He was so confused and was made fun of so bad. It drove him crazy, and he ended up in prison.

This is my only reason why i wouldn't want them to marry outside of thier race, because of kids..

Update:

I am not racist, I watched my cosin just go through alot and would be scared my grandbabies would grow up feeling the way he did. I was very close to my cousin when we were kids.

I have no problem with the color of someone skin, I really don't. I have lived half of my life near african americans, and I have had many of friends that were, I even have asked them before if they ever worried about this with their kids and my race.

Update 2:

I didn't mean he went ot prison because he was black, he went to prison because he tired hurting someone over the constant teasing, and he should be with this race and this race. He is out now and happily married to a white woman, but he said he didn't want kids..

If my child didn't have kids- I wouldn't have a problem with it....

Update 3:

i think mixed babies are very beautiful, and I would love them just as any other, I just wouldn't want thme to be hurt.

My cousin was told about his culture, he was given the choice to be able to chose what race he wanted to date, white, black, asian, mexiacan, ect.

I am sorry if this offended anyone as I said it has nothing to do with the actual color of htier skin but more to do how my grandbabies would be treated, and yes I know that our world is changing, but not everyone has accepted it, and the kids atre someitmes the one that pay...

Update 4:

i didn't say it was his excuse, that is what he said, that made him snap.

I voted for obama, and re rooted for him the whole way...........

Update 5:

nikki- I don't pass judgment on black men because of the rape by any means...

You are right all kids get teased for one or the other as you mentioned.

This question wasn't meant to upset people but to open a question of how people felt about it.

I have never been racist in my life and have lived around black people most of my life and like I said have had many black friends.

Truly my only concern would of been my grandbabies being made fun of, or people not accepting them, not me not accepting them or my daughter/sons choice in a partner. I want my kids to marry and be happy with whomever they choose....

Update 6:

myatt- thank you for seeing that yes, our world is changing, but it still hasn't changed enough. I really hope that with obama in the office, that our world will never know racism, but we are still a long way away from this.

Update 7:

hot bunie- First of all I NEVER SAID I COULD CONTROL WHO MY KIDS FEEL IN LOVE WITH.

My cousin wasn't raised with a racist parents, his mom and his dad divorced and she actually married a black man, she was white. So how is she racist . They nevered made him fweel bad because he was the product of a rape either, and explained to him about this. She had a choice when he was born, and she kept him and we all loved him, because he was a baby , not because he was white black , blue , purple, but not all people are like this .

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I wouldn't have a problem with it, but I do understand what you mean. I don't think your a rasict. I've know lots of kids when i was in school that were teased b/c they were half white and half something else. And I'm only 21 so unless things have changed dramatically in 3 years then it's probably still going on.

  • AmberP
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Hmmm, I am not shure I want to even read the other responses. lol!

    I don't think i "could" have much of a problem with it honestly. Where I live yes we have some racist people, but for the most part people are not racist. I'm trying to figure out how to word this all...

    I can see your concern with your grand children being made fun of, people not accepting them and so on...but in all reality we face those things sometimes no matter what our race is. I will admit that sometimes people of "minority" races here in america can get picked on a little more than other races, but sometimes the picking on is the same no matter what your race.

    I think this day in age when we have a raise in autism, add, adhd, bi polar, depression, and all other types of mental illnesses, that those children are picking on just as much as any child would be picked on for being another race....

    In short, my final answer is "NO" i wouldn't care, I have an aunt that is chinese/thia, an aunt from al salvador, and a cousin that is half black, my oldest daughter is 1/4 peurto rican, and we have native american in our blood line as well. How could i care if one of my daughters brought home a person from another race, I have several races that i'm already related to!

    I have to add in here that any kind of diversity that you face while growing up it's mainly on you to choose to do what you will do with your life, your cousin is older, it's more accepted now days to be of different races, and america was founded on the fact that we are a "melting pot" we several different cultures that america was based off of. I know several children that are of mixed races now that have never been picked on because of their race..

  • 1 decade ago

    That is a sad story about your cousin, but glad that everything turned out okay in the end. But not wanting your son or daughter to marry outside of their race... is racist.

    People in love don't see color the way that you are. I know because I am Mexican-American and I've married outside of my race to my white husband. Growing up I would have never thought I'd marry outside of my race, but it happened. I couldn't be more happier.

    We don't have any problems considering we are two different races. In fact we are parents, to two beautiful little boys.

    Yes, they are half Mexican and never will I allow an ignorant *** to make fun of my child for the color of their skin or any other unfounded reason. I'll tell them that the problem is with the person who is taunting them, not themselves.

    And if they want to marry someone whose skin is simply a shade darker or lighter, it's no skin off my back. As long as they love each other, it should never matter what color anyone is. I know that sounds corny, but I really thinks that's true. Race is only a problem, when people let it become an issue.

    Source(s): My life
  • 1 decade ago

    I certainly would not have a problem with my son/daughter marrying another race. In the case with your cousin, it was not the fact that her child grew up with problems because he was black, it was because your cousin was ashamed and did not educate him properly on his racial background. How can the child not be confused and insecure about it if it was never explained to him why the color of his skin is the way it is? He was left out in the cold.

    It would be very ignorant of you to prohibit your children dating other races simply because you're afraid of what kids will think or how the kid will turn out. It seems as if you have a deeper reason for not wanting to allow this to happen, as it is the parents responsibiliy to make the child feel confident about his/her mixed race by educating them.

    Times are changing, and not many people look twice at mixed children these days. I think mixed children are beautiful.

    Source(s): I'm black and my fiance is white and we couldn't be happier! We're planning on having 3 kids =]
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  • 1 decade ago

    Alright..this is a subject I can answer. My husband (black) and I (white) have 2 daughters. They are also the only mixed kids in my family. The part where parents go wrong when raising mixed kids is that they dont embrace both cultures. My children spend equal amount of time with both. As far as them getting made fun of has nothing to do with race. Kids and adults are going to pass judgment no matter what. If hes not mixed hes fat. If hes not fat hes too skinny. I mean the list goes on and on. You have to raise kids who are interracial to respect both sides and to not care what people think. You need to teach them not to associate with people who are "that way." Also you shouldnt judge black men because of this one incident that happened to your aunt. My best friend was raped by a Hispanic guy, and also got pregnant. Crazy thing is she married another Hispanic and shes the happiest shes ever been. SO PLEASE if or when u have kids teach them to love who they want no because of their skin color.

    Source(s): Personal experience
  • 1 decade ago

    The issues your cousin have probably go a lot deeper than just "being black" It probably has a lot to do with the fact that he was a product of rape. But, I am not a psychiatrist and neither are you. I know there are some people who are racist out there. But, the majority of us could care less. My Best friend grew up with a blonde Mom and a black Dad. She looks "black" Her father passed when we were in 6th grade and her Mom re-married a down home white man with a mullet. She is not in jail... as a matter of fact she is probably one of the most successful people I know. To blame your cousins bi racial heritage on his actions is like accusing all Arabs of being guilty for 911. It is just wrong. We have a bi racial president for Christs sake. Racism is overrated!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Your cousin should have ignored the teasing and should have grown up and realized there's nothing to be confused about. People are stupid.

    My mother always tells me I can only marry and have kids with someone whose white. I usually tell her that I can do whatever I want, and she can't choose for me.

    And what if your kid didn't even want kids or a family? What if they just wanted a spouse?

    Love has no race, and if your children were so worried about their children being teased because of race...

    Move to northern California. Nothing but diversity in the schools, and teasing because of race can get you expelled.

    And how does being black get you in prison?

    Source(s): N. Cal girl
  • 1 decade ago

    Oh my god, mixed babies are sooooo beautiful! All I care about is the guy treats her good. I wouldnt want her with a black gangster, mexican gangster, or white wigger - know what I mean? It's across the board and has nothing to do with the color of their skin, but with the quality of the person. If my daughter's (who are mexican) married someone from a different race/ethnicity, I wouldnt think twice about it if he was good to her.

    In fact, I dated a guy who was half black when I was a teenager. He treated me with more respect than ANY OTHER GUY I have ever dated - EVER. But I was not allowed to see him (except behind their backs) because of his race - and to this day, I think that was so wrong, cause he was everything my parents ever wante din a guy for me, except the color of his skin.

  • 1 decade ago

    Considering I've dated mostly outside of my own race I would have to say... No. Race is a stupid thing to judge someone by. If I don't like someone it's because they're an idiot or a pig, not because of the color of their skin.

  • Rachel
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    nope but maybe it is a culture thing. I don't think in Australia people care about that type of stuff. My kids can marry who they want. As long as they treat them well I don't care what colour the skin is. We are all the same underneath

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