Question for guys - Married and bachelors?

sex is what you get from companionship ...is it not. the fact that sex can be bought and paid for makes it all the less important in a marriage,don't get the wrong idea, rock your W/H world in bed....

however, the fact you understand your man needs to wind down and find some quiet time , blows me away. most women i have been with are only thinking of themselves and seem to always want to be right.

90%-10% is my answer.

you rock

For me it is 70% sex vs 30% companionship. I have a strong drive for sex and while my wife enjoys it, sex is not the first thing she wants to do if she finds some free time. The longer I go without sex the more cranky, detached, and uninterested in other aspects of our life I get.

When my wife turns down sex too often then I stop asking... and she almost never initiates. Eventually it will occur to my wife that she needs to give me some attention... and when she does our relationship usually rights itself.

It may sound sad, but if she wants to keep me motivated to work hard, keep the yard and the house looking nice, to be pleasant to my in-laws, to accompany her on errands, luncheons, and endless commitments that I could care less about.... If she wants that then she knows that she needs to wear me out once in while.

I suspect that once we get older the percentages may flip flop a bit.

When I am getting what I need I am pretty sure that I am a good husband, friend, and provider... I enjoy just spending time with my wife, but really, if it were up to me we would be having lots of sex... less volunteering at church, less watching the same reruns when we get home from work...

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I love sex, but, companionship is way more important. I'll give it 90% to 10% in favor of companionship.