Teenagers arghhhhh!!! How do you distance yourself from the pain and learn to help?

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My son is 18 and hopefully graduating next month. His moods are so crazy he constantly fights with his girlfriend (ex?) and hates school, moans and complains but does nothing when we try to talk its like walking a mine field. There has been concern about recreational drug use but no proof(yes I've snooped!) and no major signs(smell of marijuana, glassy eyes, munchies, high highs or low lows) and he denies it and condemns others. Yet he seems to be in emotional pain. Legally he's an adult but it kills me to see him hurting and worries me he's screwing himself up. What can I do to ease life if not for him myself!

green-eyed mommy · Accepted Answer

I can sympathize with you!! I have an 18 year old who was EXACTLY like  this!! I did everything I could to figure it out, and finally, when I had had enough, I took her to counseling.  We finally got to the root of all of the problems.  She was diagnosed as manic depressive and bipolar and I finally know now what I am fighting against!  I am not saying your son is these things, but it may not hurt to have him checked out and see if it isn't possibly something physical.  The doctor performed some very thorough tests to make sure that it wasn't just being a rebellious teenager.  Or maybe he just needs a neutral party to talk to, things he can't tell mom.  Worth a shot!

Anonymous · Answer

Im 14 and the same way. Life sucks, everyone hates you blah blah.
He is probably just stressed.
Talk to him..

Julie · Answer

I have no answers for you, but will be watching who does for their advice for my own teenage situation. Hang in there because it has to get better. (I tell myself that in the mirror every flippin' morning.)

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Teenagers arghhhhh!!! How do you distance yourself from the pain and learn to help?

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